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Crying Discussion » (LGBT) - Newly discovering my feelings for my partner crying. » October 14, 2017 9:43 pm

Hi there! I'm another one who has similar feelings. It sounds like for you in particular, your feelings about crying are specific to your partner, which I think makes it a little easier to explain, something like "When you cry, you look so beautiful, and the fact that you trust me enough to be vulnerable with me makes me feel really close to you. And feeling that close to you makes me want to be all over you and love you and have sex with you."

It sounds like you're pretty uncomfortable with this yourself, and let me tell you from experience, if you feel ashamed and afraid that you're a horrible person for this, talking about it with your partner won't go so well. 
I've told two people, and for the first one I was crying and apologizing for being a freak, and that (now ex) boyfriend almost broke up with me over it, he was so freaked out. When I told my current partner, I said, "hey, this is a thing about me. Doesn't mean I'm a sadist, it's more of an emotional and aesthetic thing." Then I explained it a bit more and where I thought it came from, answered his questions, and at the end he said, "Huh, well that makes sense. Can't say I'm particularly into it, but it is interesting." 

Crying Discussion » Feeling tearful today » September 17, 2017 4:28 pm

Would you be willing to share what you got on film, either here or in a pm?

Crying Discussion » Feeling tearful today » September 16, 2017 1:18 am

I'm sorry, TN. I hope the situation gets better soon, and you're able to have the release you need. 

Crying Discussion » Multiple boyfriend observations. » September 15, 2017 1:04 am

Whimsy, I'm the same way-- as soon as someone else starts to cry, I immediately stop and focus my attention on them. 

I hope you get to see your boyfriend again soon!

Crying Discussion » coworker observation » September 15, 2017 1:02 am

I understand that others may have handled the situation differently, and I agree that he did need to let it out, but ultimately I stand by my decision to ask and respect his no. If I could, I would love to take away all his destructive ideas about men crying, but in that moment, I couldn't; I could just make him as comfortable as I could, and I think in that moment, he valued maintaining his control/composure over his emotional health. I disagreed with his priorities, but I didn't want to force him to do something he didn't want to do. 

This is an interesting conversation-- I'm happy to keep discussing it if others are interested!

I've had pretty minimal contact with him in the last few weeks (during the school year he only works weekends, when i'm off, but from what I can tell he is doing better. 

Crying Discussion » coworker observation » September 5, 2017 1:48 am

I've been holding off on posting this for a while, but the board has been so quiet I figure now's as good a time as any. 

I have a 21 year old male coworker (looks strikingly like this) who I have always wanted to see cry. He has depressive tendencies and once mentioned to me that "I've felt like crying every day this week" as well as a couple old tweets along the lines of "worst night in a long time," or even more tantalizing, "I hope the tears in my eyes don't let on that I'm upset to my coworkers." (I checked the date, I wasn't working that day.)All that makes him sound sort of attention-seeking, but that's really not the case at all. He's someone who routinely puts the needs of others ahead of his own, even to his own detriment, and tends to be very stoic, if a little morose. He also has a lot of ideas about masculinity that I think end up hurting him. 

A few weeks ago his family pet was having medical issues, and he came into work anyway. I approached him in our break area around midday to ask if there was any news. He was facing away from me, and said quickly, "yeah put down," like he was already fighting tears. I said I was so sorry, and asked if he hugged (it's a habit of mine to ask before hugging someone, especially if I have no hug-history with them), and he said no. He was already trying so hard not to cry, I think hugging him would have made him break down. His chin was trembling and his eyes were filled with tears, he kept touching at the corners so keep them from falling. He said, “life is so cruel” and the pain in his voice and on his face was so open, that might have been the most vulnerable I've ever seen anyone. I sort of wish I had hugged him anyway, even though it almost definitely would have pushed him over the edge. 

He said, “I can’t cry, li

Crying Discussion » Barely holding it together » September 5, 2017 12:47 am

I'm sorry all this is happening to you, caircair. Life can be so cruelly complicated sometimes. 

It's hard to find something to say that won't sound trite, but I do believe that taking one day, one problem, one moment at a time makes things feel more manageable. Easier said than done, I know. 

You will both be in my thoughts. 

The Lounge » Rate Your Physical Attractiveness (0-10) » August 30, 2017 1:57 am

I think I've gotten better looking in the last six years-- college was a weird time for me, kept cutting my hair short then growing it out, so a lot of not-great in-between lengths.

I've got a small, proportionate body-- 5'3" (1.6 m) with a decent hourglass figure and long legs. I'm pretty skinny but not toned-- very annoyed that I work full time on a farm but I'm still not jacked. 

My face will never be anything better than cute, I have simultaneous resting bitch face and baby face, not sure how that works out. Like a baby that will bite your head off. 

Introduce Yourself » flatter » August 3, 2017 9:29 pm

Ah, I see, sorry for the confusion. I'm kind of the same way, but only with people I'm not close to. 

Introduce Yourself » read it and weep! » August 3, 2017 12:43 am

It depends. Often I'm crying in the dark and/or into a shoulder so they aren't super visible no matter what I do. If my face is visible I'll often hang my head and avoid eye contact, but it's not a strong embarrassment. 

I actually cried a few days ago, just after sex. I had gotten some bad news the day before and I'm still in the middle of processing it, so I was just emotionally overwhelmed in general. I took a shaky breath or two, then I was sobbing. It was so sudden. And when it happens like that, the tears sometimes take a minute to accumulate before they fall, but when my tear ducts got their act together I shed quite a few. I was lying on my side, so they either went over my nose or directly onto my boyfriend's chest. I cried for maybe five minutes, then just as suddenly, I was done. It was like releasing a pressure valve, and it felt really really good to just let it out for a minute, not least because my boyfriend comforted me so lovingly. 

The other factor was that I was wearing pretty heavy eyeliner (which is A Thing for my partner and I try to accomodate it as often as I can). Once I was done crying I said, "I wonder how my makeup held up, this will be fun to look at in the mirror." Sadly, no interesting marks were left. I use pencil eyeliner-- I dunno if that has something to do with it. I have liquid eyeliner coming in the mail, maybe the day will come that I can test its durability as well. 

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