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Crying Discussion » Violence, hurt yourself » May 16, 2017 6:41 am

tearhunter
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Sorry, didn't reply to the second part of your post. When typing on the phone I can't see the original post.

You talk about the pain then giving the person permission to cry. Is this after the anger subsides? I've seen this a lot but it's not the physical pain generally that causes the tears in my experience.

I've seen people, in the main females, get angry and then they don't know where to channel that anger - they appear not to know what to do with themselves - in that moment the emotions take hold again and crying can break through. Sometimes this can happen just after they have done something big, thrown a mug across the room, hit something - it's as if that action reduced the anger enough to allow emotions to come to the surface.

Hope that makes sense - let me know if I'm understanding your post correctly.

Crying Discussion » Violence, hurt yourself » May 16, 2017 6:31 am

tearhunter
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Quite a few posts on here get personal - your post is a good one and an interesting question.

I have heard of this but I've always thought of it as a way for the person to distract themselves from the emotions they are feeling to prevent themselves from crying. Perhaps a bit stereotypical but this can be seen as a common male reaction - although I have witnessed it in females.

Is this something you are finding yourself doing?

We are very complex machines and we don't always react the way we think we should nor do we react the same way every time. Depending on what's going on in our lives we can get down, emotional and subdued or we can get angry and animated.

I think knowing what's going on deep down is the key to understanding how people react - not an easy task.

If this is something that's worrying you you know you can talk here - if you'd rather you can always PM me.

Crying Discussion » Theraputic Crying... » May 15, 2017 6:42 pm

tearhunter
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As some of you know I've been through a rough time recently which involved both physical and mental health problems. I'm a good way down the road to a degree of recovery. But, one of the symptoms I experienced was a tendency to burst into tears - I was extremely emotional. And me being interested in crying as well !

​One of the medical professionals treating me suggested I turn it into a positive. He was a firm believer in crying being (in the main) a good thing. His principle was that most excretions from the body were to expel waste products and tears in his view were no different. I actually remember hearing this theory years ago. He felt people did not cry enough (both male - especially male and female alike). He felt it wrong that western society at least, viewed crying as weak and something that should be avoided.

​Although he did point out that people should not force themselves to cry and accepted everyone had a different threshold for crying.

​He reckoned that my ability to cry very easily was due to my body trying to sort itself out and in doing so it needed to flush chemicals out through my tears. He encouraged me that whenever I felt emotional and tears coming as long as I felt I was in a safe place (and that safe place was considered better if someone else was present) just to let them come and cry - make no attempt to stop the flow.

​He said the way you cry is important - he said it's best if it's not a "violent cry" as he put it (sobbing I guess) because although this type of crying is still beneficial the more extreme it gets the more unpredictable the benefits. He likened it to "Mindfulness Crying" - when you first feel the emotion, sit back and feel the emotion inside your body and let it fill you. Whenever I did this my eyes immediately filled with tears and they would be spilling out in seconds. He told me to be aware of my tears, the wetness in my eyes, how it felt as they ran across my skin. He told me not to wipe tears away,

Crying Discussion » Tears you don't feel » May 15, 2017 6:00 pm

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Yes, and in several different situations...

​First me, when I was in hospital a while back and on some seriously strong pain relief medication propped almost upright in bed. I felt something drop onto the skin of my chest - I was topless, seriously hot these hospitals! I put my hand up to where I felt this and it was wet - I even looked up at the ceiling before I realised my cheeks were wet. I was crying and I hadn't even realised! I put it down to the medication until a told a female friend and she said "Oh, that happened to me when I lost my dad" - she had been eating dinner and only realised she was crying when she put her hand to her face and felt it wet with tears.

​My eyes sometimes water when it's cold and windy and oddly enough it's these tears that are more likely to roll down the side of my nose rather than down my cheeks. Sometimes I do still wipe these tears away, other times I don't bother.

​I wonder if this is more a guy thing but I don't know why if it is. Used to speak to an older guy on the train, he had watery eyes and frequently they would spill over and only occasionally would he wipe them away. I often had conversations with him has a tear slowly rolled down his cheek. He clearly was not emotional but I often wondered should I tell him - I never did. It almost felt embarrassing for me to point out he had a tear running down his face!

​Last one, we don't tend to get very snowy winters but one year we experienced very very cold windy and snowy conditions. Snow was coming down thick and myself and most of the neighbours were out clearing snow from the road. Almost everyone's eyes were streaming with the cold wind - male's and female's alike. The women were wiping away tears more than the guys. Everyone had gloves on and whether it was a combination of that and the cold numbing faces I'm not sure. The women were pulling out tissues that the guys didn't have to hand obviously. My eyes were watering too and I remember scratching m

Crying Discussion » Ophtalmologist » May 14, 2017 9:44 am

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Used to think I'd love this job - I like eyes anyway but being able to stare into peoples eyes and make them water as part of your job - what fun!

​It's years ago now but I remember going for an eye examination and they did all this stuff. Woman doing the exam was stunning, very attractive. Back then very few people had seen me in tears (bit different now due to events since) so as my eyes watered I decided to let the tears flow so this pretty woman would see me in tears - intimate moment fantasy for me - one way obviously.

​So, she's doing her thing and tears spill over down my face - I can feel them rolling down my cheeks. And she makes the comment... "oh, nice big tears!" - I was so turned on!! She made no other comment or indication she was attracted to my tears - wish I'd been able to make her eye water!

Crying Discussion » do you tear up? » May 14, 2017 9:28 am

tearhunter
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TorNorth wrote:

Yes, I tear up quite often. Usually from thinking about stuff, like an emotional (real or fictional) situation or a verse from a song.

I think the last time I teared up was yesterday while walking to work. I can't remember why since I tend to get lost in thought very often. Eye remember my eyes filling up and getting a lump in the throat, and blinking rapidly. I also had to blow my nose.

​And here's me thinking you never cry TorNorth - clearly these emotion here but at a level you can control. However it does sound like the tears would be visible in your eyes. If you went with the emotion would you / have you shed a tear - one that if left would trickle down your face? Not thinking out and out crying just a single tear. If you've not gone with the emotion before, next time your in a safe private place let it take over you a bit more and let me know if you are able to send a tear from your eye.

​As for me... obsoletely  tear up - problem for me is I don't appear to be able to hold much water in my eyes before they spill over so tears in eyes very quickly progress to tears on cheek!

Crying Discussion » Obs: coworker (F) sobbing hysterically » May 14, 2017 8:42 am

tearhunter
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Probably a bit of both TorNorth. And also I think the loss of control was a big thing - which implies although she was crying before there was a degree of control so that in her eyes the crying didn't get out of hand.

Crying Discussion » The Lip Curled Crying Confession Thread » May 13, 2017 10:52 am

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truffle wrote:

My focus remains on tears. All I want is for her to cry and let tears fall down her face without wiping them. Bonus points if she lets me kiss them from her cheeks. This is enough to turn me on even if she's fully clothed and not attempting to be arousing. I love seeing a stream of tears on her chest going between her breasts. I have grown to love her sobbing, but that really is specific to her. For random women that I don't know, I really just want to see tears slowly moving down their faces. But because of you, now I stare at their lips too.

​This description is amazingly hot! It takes quite a flow of tears to make it happen and for the person to be upright but it's absolutely gorgeous. Does your wife have large or small breasts? My wife's breasts are quite small (perfect, but on the small side) so they are not squeezed up against each other - which means tears are very visible as they flow between them. It would be a shame for the tears to get lost as they might do on larger breasts. BTW, kissing tears from between a woman's breasts is a major turn on!
 

Crying Discussion » Small male observation » May 13, 2017 10:37 am

tearhunter
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That's really nice, you must mean a lot to him. Did you notice any tears In his eyes? Was it a streak down the side of his nose? Interesting he did not wipe the wetness away knowing it would be visible to you. Were you emotional? I wonder if you had shed a few tears whether it would have been enough to tip him over the edge and cause a few more tears to escape. 

Crying Discussion » Obs: coworker (F) sobbing hysterically » May 13, 2017 10:31 am

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Wow, such a powerful crying event - generally, at least as far as I've experienced in work crying does not involve much sobbing. There have been exceptions - but people view sobbing as ugly crying, and sobbing is viewed as a complete loss of control. And even when people get to a point where their emotions spill over and they can't stop themselves from crying they exercise some control and cry quietly - wobbly voice, gasping kind of breathing and a few tears which may or may not be wiped away.

​But to witness what was clearly a huge meltdown is rare I think. Interesting you said she was fine about and hour later, I assume you mean emotionally - was her crying episode discussed at all with her? Did she appear embarrassed about her crying outburst?

​I remember I woman at work years ago who did the 'pretty' cry - no sobbing, no snot but huge tear fill brown eyes sending the odd perfect drop down her cheek. She did not appear embarrassed at all, even talked about it afterwards how the emotion got the better of her and she could not stop a few tears from escaping. Several months later due to a major event in her life she broke down into uncontrollable crying, Sobbing loudly, shoulders shaking, face contorted, chin wobbling, tears streaming down her face and snot running from her nose. she was mortified afterwards, so embarrassed - apologised for her loss of control and sorry if it had made anyone feel uncomfortable.

​Both times she was clearly crying - the only difference was the intensity but the reactions from her were very different. 

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