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Introduce Yourself » flatter » August 3, 2017 9:29 pm

Ah, I see, sorry for the confusion. I'm kind of the same way, but only with people I'm not close to. 

Introduce Yourself » read it and weep! » August 3, 2017 12:43 am

It depends. Often I'm crying in the dark and/or into a shoulder so they aren't super visible no matter what I do. If my face is visible I'll often hang my head and avoid eye contact, but it's not a strong embarrassment. 

I actually cried a few days ago, just after sex. I had gotten some bad news the day before and I'm still in the middle of processing it, so I was just emotionally overwhelmed in general. I took a shaky breath or two, then I was sobbing. It was so sudden. And when it happens like that, the tears sometimes take a minute to accumulate before they fall, but when my tear ducts got their act together I shed quite a few. I was lying on my side, so they either went over my nose or directly onto my boyfriend's chest. I cried for maybe five minutes, then just as suddenly, I was done. It was like releasing a pressure valve, and it felt really really good to just let it out for a minute, not least because my boyfriend comforted me so lovingly. 

The other factor was that I was wearing pretty heavy eyeliner (which is A Thing for my partner and I try to accomodate it as often as I can). Once I was done crying I said, "I wonder how my makeup held up, this will be fun to look at in the mirror." Sadly, no interesting marks were left. I use pencil eyeliner-- I dunno if that has something to do with it. I have liquid eyeliner coming in the mail, maybe the day will come that I can test its durability as well. 

Introduce Yourself » abcd1234 » August 3, 2017 12:32 am

Noch eine Deutschsprachige! Das hab ich nie bemerkt! (Ich bin Amerikanerin, aber ich hab Germanistik als Hauptfach studiert.) 

Actually, now I'm curious about this-- we have at least 2 or 3 german-speaking forum members currently, and 1 or 2 that I remember from a long time ago who aren't around anymore. I wonder if there's some kind of cultural propensity for this fetish, or if it's just a coincedence? 

Introduce Yourself » flatter » August 3, 2017 12:24 am

Freut mich sehr, dich endlich kennenzulernen! 

When you say you are "not the comforting type," does that mean that you are more into the BDSM side of things? Or just that you enjoy the sights and sounds of tears without needing any emotional context? 

Crying Discussion » conversation with my boyfriend » August 3, 2017 12:19 am

Even after nothing but acceptance and positive reactions, I'm still terrified for him to actually take part in it, even in a small way. It'll be good, though, once I can get over this last hump.

And this conversation led to him being more open about his specific desires, and I've fulfilled those for him, so I think I'm in a good spot to ask. 

Crying Discussion » Feelings when not crying » August 3, 2017 12:13 am

I agree with caircair. All crying stuff aside, you do not deserve to be treated like that, by anyone, ever. 

Crying Discussion » Had another go today » August 3, 2017 12:10 am

tearhunter wrote:

I've a new one for you to try and get the tears started TorNorth! Was watching the events to mark 100 years since the battle of Passchendaele - horrific battle of WW1. They showed an interview with an old solider - a Harry Patch, sometimes referred to as the 'last tommy' - the last UK solider to fight in WW1 - he died a few years ago at 109 years old I think. But, in this interview he finally opened up about some of the horrors he witnessed - he's crying - so emotional. 

A bit off topic but Radiohead wrote a song about Harry Patch and released it shortly after his death. Incredibly beautiful and moving, perfect accompaniment if you want to produce tears. 

 

Crying Discussion » conversation with my boyfriend » July 27, 2017 9:39 pm

So this week my boyfriend and I had a bit of a difficult conversation, in which he told me that he needed to feel more sexually wanted by me (as opposed to simple love and affection, which I provide plenty of). This is something I have a bit of a hard time with, being a little self conscious about being "sexy" etc, and also generally being unable to distinguish sexual attraction from emotional attraction since they're so tied together for me. We ended the first part of the discussion with him telling me that I never have to feel ashamed about anything with him, and that anything that turns me on is automatically a good thing in his eyes. 

I mentioned the fetish once, briefly, very early on in our relationship (so like 4.5 years ago) because I didn't want to waste my time with someone who wasn't going to be cool about it like my last boyfriend wasn't, and he was fine with it. And this conversation made me feel like I should bring it up again, even though it makes me super uncomfortable to talk about.

So later I asked him if he even remembered that this was a thing, and he did, and I explained it a little more fully. I said that this was a hard-wired thing for me from early childhood, talked about the elements of intimacy, release and catharsis that I think tie it in to sex for me, the three prongs of aesthetic/emotional/sexual, etc etc etc.  He said it makes sense to him and he finds it interesting because it's "different" (his word). 

Also? It turns out he's been playing on it the whole time we've been together. Like wtf. He knew that after he'd been crying was the best time to initiate sex with me, and he enjoys the feeling of it. He said that it doesn't make him more/less comfortable crying in front of me because I never mention it in the moment and he doesn't usually think about it at the time. Which I find hard to believe, but okay. 

He said that he doesn't think he'd be able to really incorporate it into sex (read: cry for me), not for lack of willingne

Crying Discussion » Male Observation... » July 27, 2017 9:17 pm

Wow. Your observations are always so incredible, and this one is no exception! What are the odds that you'd end up with a counselor who immediately zeroed in on your tears like that and gave you direction on how to cry? 

I don't suppose you ever told him about your own fascination with tears, did you?

Crying Images » Vincent Cassel crying photos from Eastern Promises » July 26, 2017 10:33 pm

Wow, awesome visual to go with the interview!

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