I've naturally been interested in emotional h/c for many years, but I hadn't really considered the physical hurt stuff until recently! By the way, this interest is being cultivated intentionally for practical purposes because I'm not getting many male crying observations IRL... like one every few YEARS, and some are not even very good and they're all extremely short. So I have an interest in meeting a guy who is interested in doing submissive play with me. I'm just guessing of the subset of men who are actually into this idea, many would prefer to be physically brought to tears rather than mentally, hence my interests in branching out a bit from the emotional... but I digress...
I can get into guys being whipped... but I'm really picky! I watched both the Denzel and Elvis scenes and preferred the Elvis one because Elvis is sort of wincing and looking more helpless whereas Denzel's expression is one of resilience and strength. He does shed pretty tears (well done, Denzel!), but he never loses that strong composure. So for me, I guess that means it's more important to see some struggle during a whipping scene, especially mental struggle, but tears are obviously a MAJOR INTEREST!!!
Before I get into it, I will mention I think I like the concept of "torture" more than whipping because torture could be many types of things including ones that don't involve physical pain but more of a mental one. I also like the thought of tying someone up or seeing them tied up more than the thought of whipping. But this topic is about whipping, so back to WHIPPING... ahhhh yes, whipping...
OK... so during consentual-with-safeword-light-whipping (I am taking this out of the movies now), I would love to hear the guy yelp out things like, "No, no!" and "Please stop!" and things like that. Just makes him seem more helpless. I also like the thought of him physically trembling. The shirt off is a nice touch on a guy with a nice body. But it's not a requirement and I want him otherwise clothed. But being the hurt/comfort comforter that I am, I especially like the thought of taking care of him after he's a battered mess. Aww!!
I think if I were whipping someone (this would be new to me, BTW), I wouldn't be getting off in a sadistic way... if anything, I'd be getting off on feeling sorry for him, because feeling empathy for a man in pain turns me on!! I'd also be getting off on the fact that I was making HIM happy, and that's the crucial part that would help me get into my role and not wimp out on the whipping! I like the concept of making a man happy by hurting him because, wow... it twists my heart in two different directions at once! Like, I'm happy because I have the priviledge of getting to make HIM happy, yet feel sorry for him at the same time because he seems to need the pain to get to the happy place, yet pain seems, on the surface at least, to be an unhappy thing! Wow, how fascinating, this connection between pain and pleasure!! Though I have yet to meet someone wired like that, but then again, I probably HAVE and just don't know it!!! Not exactly a casual conversation!!! Well, but it could be if you just bring it up in more general terms... and go from there... (listen to my wheels turning now, haha...)
I can't comment on the other scenes mentioned, but anyone wants to post any links to the scenes, I'd love to see them all and rank them! Don't have time to watch the whole movies.
Last edited by Diana (June 9, 2016 5:07 pm)