I do a mild lip curl when sobbing; I'm sure of it now. The last time I did it was 12 days ago, and about six weeks ago before that. My mother does, but she only sobs from sadness, and her happy crying is always quiet and discreet. I have two younger sisters who do occasionally curl their lips with high-intensity sobbing. However, recently I've only seen the youngest do it. My middle sister has not sobbed in front of me in years so I'm not sure if she still does it. Her wedding is coming up this summer, though, and she has wept happily many times while talking about her love for her fiance, so I think that it's possible she'll sob on her wedding day.
On my father's side (Indian): Two aunts (out of three) curl their lips even when not sobbing. Five female cousins in my generation also do it. Two female cousins once removed curl their lips but only when sobbing. I can honestly say I haven't seen any male relative on my father's side curl their lips. I've only seen them tear up.
On my mother's side (Italian): one aunt and two uncles are lip curlers. One male cousin has curled his lip after his girlfriend dumped him. There are four female cousins in my generation on my mother's side. I've seen the oldest one (31) sob with an intensely curled lip. The other three are between the ages of 15-21 and I have seen them cry quietly in casual social settings. I haven't been with these three during truly sad, emotionally intense events so I've never seen them sob hard. However, two of them do a little wobbly lip curl when they talk and cry quietly; I don't know if this means anything, but maybe that makes it more likely that they genuinely lip curl when sobbing. Maybe.
Of note, relatives on my father's side sob much more easily and frequently. Those on my mother's side are quiet and tearful and it takes a lot to get them to sob; when they do sob, they do so quietly but for much longer than those on the Indian side of my family.
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