Yeah that last obs post of yours was absolutely breathtaking. I'd been thinking about how much detail to give about my own experiences.I'm pretty sure that, under the right circumstances, anybody can be turned on by emotional vulnerability in their partner. That's exactly what happened with my wife last year.

I had a career-related problem that my wife had just solved, mainly by her postponing a trip that she had been looking forward to for years and by probably sacrificing a huge opportunity. I was totally blown away by her gesture and was getting really emotional, and then she started to get frisky all of a sudden. I wasn't turned on at all at this point but I kissed back while slowly starting to cry. My face was angled upwards, so the tears didn't go to my breasts but instead made a trail down both sides of my neck and to my shoulders. I started to fall back on the bed but she put her arm firmly around my lower back and pulled me back up, and then she did this thing where she kissed down my right cheek, down the right side of my neck and shoulder, down to my breasts, up the left shoulder, left side of the neck, and left cheek up to my eye. That move, plus the other things she was doing, turned me on so much I couldn't take it anymore, and I let her undress me and we had an amazing night. I cried quietly for about five minutes, not the whole time. When talking afterward, I realized she had kissed along the tear tracks on my cheeks and neck. She said she was turned on by the vulnerable-looking expression on my face, and she felt that she could do anything she wanted to me at that point and that I would have let her (which is probably true). She also said I was beautiful with tears running down my face and body, and that she was glad I don't "cry like a baby" the way she does. I think she liked that fact that, even though I cried, I still actively participated instead of just lying there and bawling.

You have to understand that orgasm is not that important to either of us; its wonderful, but we don't need it in order to be satisfied. She has cried during foreplay a few times, but the tears stopped once we started going further. It doesn't increase the sexual momentum for me the way you're describing. Am I making sense?

Last edited by truffle (June 6, 2015 2:22 pm)

Took me some time to answer to this thread, it is quite personal.
I was crying having sex several times, although the last time is quite far away.
In my case it was not the having sex after crying/ because of crying but crying caused by having sex. When I give myself to my partner it is a feeling in the guts, deep down and it makes me sobbing, heaving, it is something inside my chest I can't control, later the tears are coming. So first the feeling, the sobbing and at last the tears.

Like inmyarmsagain said, I've never been through that, but it's probably my ultimate fantasy.  I've had a couple teary kisses, though.  Once, he had been feeling down and I pulled him into my arms and whispered something meaningful to him.  We hugged for several minutes, and then he kissed me and buried his face in my shoulder again before pulling away.  His eyes looked pink when he pulled away, but that was the only evidence he had been crying.  Another time, we had been having a deeply emotional conversation, and he had confided some things to me.  It was probably the only time he's ever definitely cried in front of me; he was tearing up and I could hear the thickness in his voice and see this expression of total vulnerability on his face.  In the end, I pulled him close to me and kissed him gently, but we were in a car and he was leaving so, if it could have ever progressed beyond that point, I'll never know.

There was also this strange experience I had once which was very intimate and sweet.  He had asked me to set an alarm for him, but when it went off, he told me to ignore it in a soft voice and instead put both arms around me and held onto me tightly for a really long time, never once opening his eyes.  He was in just his boxers, and I was in a t-shirt and underpants.  I reciprocated by holding him tightly, as well. After a really long time, he rolled on top of me and kissed me, then just sat up and stared shyly at me.  I scooted toward him and put my arms around him, and when I started running my fingers through is hair, he laid his cheek down on my shoulder.  We stayed like that for several minutes before he finally said he should probably get out of bed.  He never told me what had been weighing on him that morning, and I never asked, but there was this distinct atmosphere of intimacy and comfort that's hard to explain.

Unless the guy is turned on by his own tears I don't think it is possible for him to cry and have an erection at the same time. With men who are not turned on by crying one exclude the other...unfortunately.

It think it does require a specific set of circumstances but I have heard of guys getting turn on while crying. A female friend of mine once told me she was lying in bed with her husband talking about some really emotional stuff - both were crying hard - probably sobbing with lots of tears. She pulled her husband close to give him a hug and immediately felt a very hard erection pressing against her which as she said must have been present before the hug! It also didn't got away while they hugged and cried!

I don't think it is a common for guys as it is for women but I have heard of guys crying during orgasm - or just after - quite rare but it does happen.