I am aroused by men getting emotional, even if they do not cry. Part of my fetish is definitely comforting, not just the crying. Sometimes, I do get uncomfortable about the fact that someone's pain causes me to be aroused, but I don't think it's the pain, exactly - it's the expression of the pain and the potential for me to console him.

I'm not sure about movies...I gravitate toward emotional scenes, but when I'm just watching it on film or in performance, I will empathize with an emotional actor and possibly tear up myself. It takes a lot more intensity in that situation to really turn me on. I still enjoy the scenes, though.

With a man in real life, even a conversation about a hard day or something slightly unpleasant draws me toward him.

I know the warm stomach/chest feeling you're talking about. For me, that is tied very closely with sexual arousal, but I see how it could be separate, too.

Nice to know you, confused, and I hope you won't be for long.  I myself have been attracted to crying since I was thirteen or thereabouts.  I guress I felt a little guilty to start with, for I knew good and well that it wasn't normal  Eventually I came to conclude that normal is a relative term and that I am what I am.  If you need a friend, you've come to the right place.  These are good people.  Again. honey, welcome and more than welcome..

Oh my goodness. You basically just described me in everything you said. I am the EXACT same way, word for word. My fetish is also a build up process to comforting. Comforting men is the main highlight for me, and I know that feeling in your chest that you speak of. Your heart starts racing, that warm fuzzy feeling rises inside of you so suddenly. I love it. I also fantasize about me being comforted as well. In fact, a couple months ago I was having a genuine meltdown in my guy friend's arms. I replay that moment in my head over and over and get that warm feeling in my chest and that pounding in my heart. But my fantasies are mainly me comforting men. In the past, I have also purposely hurt others verbally so I could comfort them. But I was way younger then, and no longer do that. I'd say that as long as your have self control, you shouldn't worry about it. Everyone has their kinks whether they want to believe it or not- and our comforting kink we share is actually a sweet kink in my opinion. We get joy out of comforting and loving on sad/crying men. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as we don't act out on our fetishes (which, knowing that we share the exact same fetish, I know we won't).

It's so cool to see another human being with my exact same fetish interests to type it out so vividly. It makes me feel so much more relatable and more comfortable with my fetish. It truly is a strange phenomenon, how many people out there that really do enjoy comforting people. I've noticed a pattern on here; males tend to lean more towards crying/tears in general, while females lean more toward the comforting aspect of it. For the most part, at least. It's strange how a select few people in the world feel this way. In my opinion, I think that we have this fetish because we take the natural pull to sad people more seriously. Humans naturally want to love and comfort someone who is upset or crying, and I guess this natural feeling takes over and stands out to us. I remember when I first discovered I had this fetish as a five year old. I hadnt thought anything at all of comforting and had never personally seen or remembered someone being comforted. I was playing with my toys, and I made the male toy cry. Just going along with the scenario, I automatically made the female comfort and cuddle him. As soon as I did this, I was IMMEDIATELY attracted to the feeling of sympathy and compassion I was feeling. To make her touch him, love him, and care for him in his time of despair was so overwhelming for me. From that point on, I was a true dacryphile. I fantasize about crying scenarios literally every night in my head, it is a nightly routine that I must do. So yeah, I think that us comfort lovers just put emphasis on our natural loving and caring for people (men for us) who cry.

I enjoyed reading the details of your fetish (since our are exactly alike!) and I hope you enjoy this site as much as I do. I hope to see you around on the forums soon!

-Grace (Yowza)

confused:  I think I've felt that same "warm" feeling in the chest and stomach you describe.  And yes, comforting is a major part of the fetish for me.  In fact, it's sometimes hard to know for sure if I'm mainly into crying or mainly into comforting. 

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