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Crying Discussion » Quite a few fiance obs (m) » September 30, 2021 3:41 pm

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Hey all! 

Sorry to kind of be in and out all the time - life is crazy, but I like to check in and share when I have the time!

So, back in April my boyfriend proposed to me, and has officially been upgraded to fiancé! He was emotional when he proposed, which was very, VERY cute. 

Since then, I know there have been so many obs, as he is an emotional guy.

I'll start with a trip we went on with my family - it was a situation in which we were together all day, every day with no breaks. Everyone hit a breaking point at one time or another. My fiancé got into a little bit of a fight and was already having a bad time, and he said he didn't want to come out to dinner. I got mad and walked away, planning to go to dinner without him. Well, that set EVERYONE off, and eventually my stepdad went to talk to him. He was crying the entire time my stepdad talked to him (I wasn't there for that, though), and when they both came upstairs to go to dinner, his eyes were red and it was clear he'd been crying. We were all feeling better at that point, but fiancé kept tearing up and getting emotional very easily. We were walking around in town and he said "I can't stop crying!" 

A few weeks later, he was getting used to being back at work and switching his schedule back around. He was feeling really depressed about his job being overnight and a few other things, and I could tell he was going to cry. We were sitting side by side on a couch, so I put one arm around his shoulder and my other arm was in wrapped around his head and his face was buried in my upper arm, in the crook of  my elbow. Suddenly, he started silently but violently sobbing - shaking with heaving sobs that started slow and got a little faster as he ran out of breath. We were alone in the room, but not in the house, so he was trying to be really quiet. I've never seen or felt him cry like this, so it was a shock. I made a noise of understanding/ comfort and said, "Oh, babe," and held him tighter, which made him s

Crying Discussion » Making Someone Cry with a Movie » January 18, 2021 7:54 pm

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I am so guilty of this... I made my boyfriend watch A Star us Born after he told me it made him cry! He didn't cry the second time, unfortunately. Hahaha.

I have also made him watch Pixar movies with me, and he got teary watching Inside Out. It was adorable.

Crying Discussion » More BF and self obs » April 13, 2020 6:56 pm

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Man, it has been a whirlwind.

I have a couple of obs - a couple from me, and one from my bf.

We've had a lot of opportunities to watch movies lately, and we recently watched the new Pixar movie, Onward. Very good, and also very much a tear jerker! Now, as I've touted in the past, I don't really cry much at all, but this quarantine situation is doing something to me, and the last two weeks have been weird! I've already shared one obs with you, but here are a couple of others: Onward got me right at the end. I was laying with my head on my boyfriend's lap, and a couple of tears fell - I was laying sideways so the tears from my right eye slid down my face towards my hair/ear, and the tears from my left eye pooled in the corner of my nose. I hid it well and wiped my tears away stealthily, and at the end I asked my boyfriend if he was crying. He said not really, and I said it made me cry. He then did THE cutest thing that I didn't know existed until now - he still couldn't see my face because I was still sitting as if I were watching the movie, and touched my face to see if there were any tears left he could wipe away. I don't know why, but it was SO cute and nice. He then told me he did have one tear that almost fell, but he stopped it.

As for my bf, he had a job interview that I'm sure went fine, but he got so worked up about it, thinking about things he could have said (don't we always?) and ended up getting a little upset. We were sitting on the couch - he was sitting normally, and I was sort of sitting backwards and facing him really close with my hands on his face - he had his eyes closed and I could see the tears seeping out from his closed eyes so instead of tear drops, the entire underneath of his eyes were wet. I hugged him and he put his head on my shoulder, and lifted his glasses so he could bury his face in and have his tears fall on my shoulder. After a while he sat back up, and I was talking to him, trying to make him feel better. I was just saying nice

Crying Discussion » Another coffee shop crying obs » March 31, 2020 1:55 pm

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truffle wrote:

Did she stick around after that, or did she leave? I'm trying to imagine someone crying freely in public, fully aware that everyone was watching, and then remaining there afterward with wet eyes and a red nose and smeared makeup, as if nothing had happened. That kind of post-cry nonchalance sounds REALLY appealing.

Agreed! I feel like someone who just pulls themselves together and sticks around is someone who isn't ashamed to cry in public and knows how to take care of themselves when/after crying. if that makes sense... that's really attractive!

Crying Discussion » Isolation Obs (m & f) » March 31, 2020 1:50 pm

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Amans lacrimae wrote:

Wow, a lot of first times here, you mentioned previously he never fully let it out in front of you, so even if softly, he sobbed.

Interesting how you can identify when he's going to cry, I guess everyone has a distinctive reaction when about to cry, I'll be more perceptive. Also, lovely you wipe his tears every time he cries, and he lets you!!

First of all, I am sorry you miss your loved ones because of the world situation, and also, I am quite surprised you finally Let It out, I remember you once said you did not even remember when was the last time you cried, I can guess (depending on your memory) it could have been months, if not years.

Now you say you are an "ugly" crier, in my opinion there is nothing sweeter thsn an expressive face when crying, anyways, this time you cried, and in front of your bf (well, laying down next to him), I love his reaction, first, surprised you were crying, then, as expected, I guess, he tenderly wiped your tears. You had never experienced this before, how did you feel when he wiped your tears? Did you get up at some point (I mean your face not in the pillow) when crying? Did you notice your bf reaction when he wiped your tears (did he like it, did he look like he has done this before)? I love when a female friend cries harder when I am taking care of her.

Hope everything turns out well for you, have the best week posible, God bless.

Oooh, by  the time this happened, he had actually sobbed in front of me before. It was an obs I forgot to post, and maybe will go into more detail at some point, but I have seen him cry pretty hard now - but only one other time!

I was surprised I cried, too - this isolation thing is really getting to my head! It was really nice to have him comfort me - I don't think I've ever had someone comfort me, or someone I was comfortable to indulge it with, at least. Him wiping my tears gave me the same warm, fluttery feeling I get when I get to comfort him, which was a new disc

Crying Discussion » Isolation Obs (m & f) » March 31, 2020 1:39 pm

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truffle wrote:

Your first self-observation! Thank you for posting these, especially since the circumstances are so stressful. In your previous posts you were predicting that he’d be warm and comforting when you finally cried in front of him, and it’s awesome to see that you were right! These are all so sweet and cozy. I love how he just INDULGES himself in your comfort.
 
And I hear you, the isolation is driving me bananas. For as long as I can remember, my entire family and friend circle greeted each other with hugs and/or cheek kisses routinely. I’m just used to a lot more physical affection. Now nobody wants to touch anyone. The lack of hugs is painful. Plus we have a lot of family in Italy and that’s just a horrible situation.
 
I’m trying to take it day by day. Reading a lot, staying in shape, and staying as connected as possible through social media/phone/facetime. Sending positive vibes your way. We’ll get through this.  

He really loves it! And will talk about it afterwards! Sometimes he'll cuddle right up to me instead of waiting for me to comfort him, and put his head on my lap. And then he is always so appreciative of me "being so nice" to him, and says often that he loves when I comfort him.

He was just as sweet to me as I'd imagined! He was a little surprised, and he made this really sweet/ sad noise that was almost a gasp and immediately started comforting me. It was so sweet, and now I know why he likes it so much when I comfort him!

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling similarly, and have family in Italy! Sending good thoughts to you and your family - you're right, we will get through this!

Crying Discussion » Isolation Obs (m & f) » March 30, 2020 5:06 pm

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Not sure about all of you, but this whole quarantine/isolation stuff has really been a whirlwind. 

I've been working from home and my boyfriend got laid off so, as expected, I've had quite a few boyfriend obs, a long awaited self obs, and a few other friend obs to share!

Early on in this whole thing, we'd had some friends over and my boyfriend got pretty upset about it - a friend invited someone else who had been working in a pretty large public place, and it made him feel uncomfortable. Both of us felt insecure about telling that person to leave, so we ended up getting into a small fight about it. I went off to clean and then go to bed, and he sat in the living room not talking to me. Eventually he came to bed and cuddled up to me, and I could tell he was crying - I think he wanted me to know so I would comfort him. I turned around and he started to sob softly so I held him tightly. I could feel his tears soaking the pillow on my shoulder. We both apologized and made up, but he cried for a few more minutes with his head buried between my head and the pillow.

There were a few other smaller observations where he got teary-eyed (we watched the Lord of the Rings because I'd never seen it, and he got emotional at the end - so sweet!), but yesterday there was an issue with unemployment and he ended up crying a little. I can tell when he's about to cry now, because he'll close his eyes and start to rub his nose up and down with his two middle fingers and then he'll close his eyes and pinch the bridge of his nose to keep is tears from running down his cheeks (unsuccessfully), and push his glasses up a bit to keep them from fogging up. Sometimes he'll take his glasses off entirely when he knows he's going to cry. He started doing his telltale signs that he was going to cry, and I tried to just comfort him. I wipe his tears every time he cries now - I try not to make it a thing, but when the opportunity arises I do it. Eventually I was saying things like "it'll be okay,"

Crying Discussion » Wife and guest obs (Female and male) » February 19, 2020 3:37 pm

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Wow, this is AMAZING. Ugh, when he said "Excuse me, excuse me please" I would have MELTED. I love how it seemed like he was trying so hard to hold it together and keep from drawing attention to himself. Such a beautiful obs, thank you for sharing! 

Crying Discussion » Boyfriend cried again last night » January 9, 2020 2:50 pm

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He didn't outright say it - I could just tell by his reaction that he liked it. We were talking and he said how he appreciates that I listen to him and I'm there for him when he's upset, and I just said that I like holding him and I always want to be there for him and I like wiping his tears away. It was really sweet.

I've never had anyone wipe my tears away! I'm pretty sure he would do it, and the idea of that is really nice. I think I would like it! I will definitely report back if/when it does happen!

Crying Discussion » Boyfriend cried again last night » January 8, 2020 5:17 pm

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Princess_Lucky1731 wrote:

That was an amazingly beautiful obs. Just wish he didn't try to stop himself from crying. It would make him feel so much better in the long run. And it seems like you are the prefect comforter.

I wish he wouldn't, either! I do love that he tries to restrain them, but I wish he'd give up the fight a little easier, haha. He's cried quite a few times in front of me, but I've never truly heard or seen him lose complete control and sob. This was the closest he's ever been, but he was mostly just taking ragged breaths and breathing out haltingly - he may have sobbed silently very briefly, but it wasn't what I'd expect from sobbing.

Amans lacrimae - I know! I'm waiting for it, too! I was near tears the other night as well, but I think I was so focused on taking care of him that it just didn't happen for me.

I told him last night that I love wiping his tears away, and he really liked that. He smiled the way he does when I tell him something I love about him and looked away slightly embarrassed, but definitely liked it. He told me he likes when I do that too, and when I hold him when he's upset.  

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