truffle wrote:

Hi! These are mind-blowingly beautiful observations, and your attention to detail is astonishing! I'm a pretty social person, I know a lot of relatively emotional men, and I work in an environment that can be very sad and has caused me to cry several times. Even then, in a work environment, I've only seen a tear roll down a man's cheek one time. You must work in a very unique (and lucky) situation.

I've only comforted a sobbing man six times in my entire life. Two of those times the guy thought I might be interested in him, and one of them kissed me on the lips a few days after the episode, even though he knew I had a girlfriend at the time.  Letting a man weep into your skirt and letting him clutch your legs seems...rather intimate, doesn't it? Do you ever worry that some of these men may mistake you for a romantic prospect?

Haha thanks! I can’t help not to notice everything, holding someone while they’re sobbing is great. For the question, he was one of my friends for a very long time and are very comfortable doing that kind of stuff, we both understand that it is nothing romantic. I do not fear that they may find my comfort romantic, usually I’d just give my sobbing coworkers a hug or wipe their tears away, and they and I know that it is nothing more. I’m only really more comforting to my closer friends, and even if they did mistake it (which has not happened haha) I’d make sure to clarify that I did not mean to make them feel that way, and that no feelings are reciprocated.

Amans lacrimae wrote:

randomaccount wrote:

Here are a few of the obs i have experienced, mainly with male co workers ;) ;)))

Wow, several work obs, guess you work in a stressful environment. In the first obs, the guy must have had a torrent of tears streaming down his cheeks in order for the tears to roll down the neck. Was this the first time he cried in front of you? Since he hesitated to embrace you. Were his sobs loud, since people went to where you were? When the embrace broke, was his face so wet that you could not trace the tear stains on his cheeks? How did he react when you wiped his tears?

In the second obs, as he continued to cry, did you notice new tear streaks? Seems you would rather wipe the tears with clothes, what difference do you feel between wiping tears with the skirt or sleeve, and wiping it with your hands or fingers? How did he react to you wiping his tears?

The third one looked for you to cry, so he obviously wasn’t embarrassed to cry in front of you, I know how frustrating it can be to not being able to wipe someone’s tears, it happened to me two weeks ago, I was trying to wipe a female friend’s and she wiped her cheek before I could do so, not another chance to do so, I felt like I  I missed something.

1. Yes, the work environment is very stressful, but these obs did happen during different years. I think I had seen him tear up slightly before, I think he was holding in his stress. He shook and cried silently a bit and every few seconds he would take a loud sharp breath if I recall, and got a bit louder as he sobbed more. People came and watched, offering words of wisdom to him and putted his back while he cried. His face seemed very wet with tears, I could not see his tear tracks and most of them were smeared or just going wayward down his face. When I wiped his tears, he seemed very thankful and did not budge when I touched his face, I think he found it very comforting much to my enjoyment.

2. Hmmm, I do think th

Have you dried your eyes on her gown before? Does she like wiping your tears?

Amans lacrimae wrote:

randomaccount wrote:

Amans lacrimae wrote:

Have you wiped another person’s tears?
You mention big tears, do they follow the same path or does he shed multiple tear streaks (you can see more than one streak on each cheek)?

I definetly have wiped another person’s tears, all of my boyfriends have cried on my shoulder and I would wipe their tears, and I have also wiped some of my co workers tears as well. My husband has tears following the same tear streak at first, but does not go the same path a few tears later. I haven’t really seen him with more than 3 tear streaks on one cheek without accidentally smearing it or with my wiping them all away with my sleeve or hand. Lol maybe I should try to see how many tear streaks he can make secretly ;)

Is it common for male coworkers to look for you to cry? Are they comfortable crying in front of you? Details (unchecked tears, bury face in hands, sobbing).

Yes, please tell, next time your husband cries, how many tear streaks run down his face before it is completely wet and individual tears are no longer visible.

Some of my male coworkers are very close with me, and even the ones that I am not so close with are comfortable with crying in front of me for some reason. At first I can tell they put their head down a bit and try to hide that they are crying, but after I talk to them about it they start to fully sob and let their tears run down their face unchecked, some of them having lip curls. I’m gonna fully fledge this out in obs I am going to write very soon. I’ll also make sure to write about my husband when he does cry.

Amans lacrimae wrote:

@randomaccount  I can assume you are female, I see you like wiping your husband’s tears, I guess he likes you wiping his tears. Have you ever cried in front of him? If so, has he ever wiped your tears? Would you like to have your tears wiped?

I have cried in front of him on multiple occasions, but I am unfortunately not a very wet crier myself. He usually gets very stressed out from work and family, which makes him cry very often. I’m pretty sure that he has wiped my tears before, and I would like it to happen more often. Probably only about 1 or 2 tears, and he would brush them away and I would stop crying. Hope that helps!