I was at an event with some friends, but fell ill and had to leave early. I found out later that one of my friends had cried in response to some good news shared by another friend. If I hadn't gotten sick, I'd have been there to witness her tears. I've seen her cry before and she is the prettiest crier I know in real life (partly because she objectively is a gorgeous crier in the way her eyes glisten with tears and her tears trickle down her cheeks, partly also because I've had so few real-life obs).

The one time I've actually seen her properly cry (there were also these other couple of instances, but she wiped her tears quickly those times as there were a few other people around and I didn't really get to see her tears), it was happy tears and the way her eyes shone and reflected her surroundings, and the way her tears smoothly ran down her face, easily the best obs I've witnessed in real life. I gave her a side hug to comfort her, didn't wipe her tears or anything.

She's also admitted to crying on another occasion, but the way she described it (not her crying itself, just the fact that she cried) sounded like it was more in private, so, I wouldn't count that as a missed obs.

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I've cried in front of three different women in my adult life - my ex and two other friends. One of the friends and my ex have seen me cry more than once. The two friends have seen me cry quite hard. I've teared up a little in front of a few others, and cried over the phone a couple of times to another female friend.

I'd say for me it depends on the context and who it is I'm crying in front of, I wouldn't cry in front of most people, but there are people I trust enough (and usually engage in emotional conversations and things only with them) that I have cried in front of. I will say that if I get married, I'll only want to cry in front of my wife and no other woman.

I don't know about how prevalent the boys don't cry motto is, it's not necessarily verbalized as much, but also, I've hardly seen men cry (there was a classmate in high school who cried a few times, and another close friend who's cried a couple of times in front of me, but not much beyond that).

For me, it'd depend on whom I'm crying in front of. There are a few people, close friends, I've at least teared up in front of (a couple of them I've cried multiple times in front of, including both the guys from above, and a couple of girls besides my ex). In fact, there was this one female friend I cried quite hard in front of and there were other people around (including her boyfriend), and she cried too (at least, her eyes were filled with tears, and she was giving me a side hug, so I didn't quite see if she shed any tears). I didn't feel that embarrassed or self-conscious in that context as it was one of those contexts where people generally do cry. But, if not for that context, I don't think I'd have been that comfortable crying in front of her (or anyone else) with that many people around. Another female friend who's seen me cry multiple times (I think she may have seen me cry more times in my adult life than anyone else) has also cried a couple of times in front of me - the first time remains perhaps my favorite obs of all time.

Speaking of my ex, she and I almost never spent time together in front of others (we had a sort of a secret relationship due to some complicating factors), so all our tears were in private. There was one time she cried in front of a couple of mutual friends (that was actually one of the best obs of her I had as her tears were very clearly glistening in her eyes and trickling down the middle of her cheeks perfectly, she's only cried like that about three times and the other times she cried, often, the tears ran down her nose or straight into my shoulders).