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Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » May 1, 2021 11:33 am

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Amans lacrimae wrote:

Do you usually get comforted when you cry? Does the empathy crying happen with only one person or with more people?

I guess I am "lucky" for I, most of the time but not always, receive comfort and tenderness when I cry and even from people I barely know or don't know at all; I remember that one day in high school I burst into tears after a philosophy class and a few people I didn't know came to me and stayed with me until I got better, I felt a little guilty about wasting their time but at the same I was very glad to be surrounded by their comfort. And I felt very good, there wasn't any awkwardness from them, and I really appreciate this kind of genuine care

Crying Discussion » Short film about crying; Fragile.com by Brittany Menjivar » April 30, 2021 7:53 pm

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Greetings everyone!
I don't know if this was already posted, I hope not, please delete my topic if there is already one..! And I hope it also is related to the discussion. I thought about posting it in the "Crying videos" section but then I've realized that this discussion might be more into "sharing feelings and opinions" than sharing the video itself

I've recently discovered "dacryphilia" through this short film
https://vimeo.com/378925457
and I was wondering what do you think about it, and how does it make you feel?
Also, I was wondering what do you feel about a person crying "from their heart" and a person crying "for a role" (in the situation of the movie), and is the difference really important for you to enjoy watching someone cry, or is it more the beauty of a face covered in tears— whether it's from the heart of for a role— that you find attractive? 
Would you find the idea of people crying through livestreams interesting or do you think that would be problematic? I see crying as something personal and even a little intimate, do you think a person crying for an audience would make you lose interest in the said person? Do you prefer to see "sincere" tears, whether it's from someone you know, or even from actors in a movie? (even though actors play for an audience, I think it's different in some way, because actors often are sincere in their feelings, as they are very close to their characters)

as for my own opinion about it, I've find the movie very touching and even heart-breaking, it's the fact that you give up all your "pure" and "true" feelings for an audience, for fame, that moves me and touches me a lot
and I also think that I might be unconsciously afraid of never being able to cry again because of crying too much, which leads me to another question..! Do you ever feel scared of not being able to cry again?

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » April 30, 2021 7:26 pm

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Thank you very much for your answers,  

truffle wrote:

Do you cry while writing, and do you continue to write even though you’re crying?

I occasionally cry while writing and either I keep writing or I have to stop because it's too much and I need to take a little break


NeedHerSobs wrote:

How does the feeling of being comforted while you're in such a state affect you?

It affects me in both a good and a "bad" way, a good way because it feels good being comforted by someone, and it's reassuring, warm and relieving, like you can allow yourself to share your thoughts, and I see crying as a very intimate thing. But it also makes me feel a little bad because the person comforting me always ends up crying too, and I think it's both reassuring to have someone to cry with but it's also a little "hard", because I know this person wouldn't be crying if I wasn't, I don't know if it makes sense

Crying Discussion » Should we come up with new words to describe nuances of dacryphilia? » April 30, 2021 5:03 pm

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Hello!

I also believe it could be an interesting thing to put new specific meanings for the word dacryphilia and more than that, it could be very helpful (especially for people like me who don't know much about it and who are "new" to it, people who are still looking for themselves, etc)
I think the word can have a very personal meaning to a lot of people, which is even more interesting! I like your suggestions about the three sub-categories, but I also was wondering if the word "auto-dacryphilia" could be a correct a term too in the spectrum of dacryphilia? I don't know "what kind of dacryphilic (I don't know if that word exists) I am, but I think I'm more into my own cries, as others' pain only saddens me

Introduce Yourself » ✿ Self-Introduction » April 30, 2021 4:46 pm

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Sex: Female

Orientation: I don't know, I'm having a really hard time finding out my own sexual orientation 

Age: 22

Location: Europe (France)

Interested in:
I'm not really "interested" in people crying themselves, or at least, it hurts me to see someone cry more than anything. I just want to comfort them, seeing someone cry is a very painful feeling for me. But crying is very important for me, and I'd even say "vital". I need to cry. So I guess I can say that I might be interested in how much I can hurt myself mentally while crying, maybe it can be considered as some form of emotional masochism, I'm sorry if this is not appropriate. I often feel like my only way— or most "active" way— of expressing myself is through crying

Interest in the forum:
I've recently discovered the word "dacryphilia" while watching a short movie and I've immediately felt the need to discover more about it, as it interests me a lot. I've discovered this forum and I was a little scared about joining it, but why not trying it? 
I'm interested in discussions about dacryphilia, discovering more about this fetish, sharing, and I hope I'll be able to find what I'm looking for and find a little place here, I can't bring the subject to my friends, I'm afraid they'll find it weird

Your own crying :
It totally depends, I cry easily and for almost anything, and I'm very expressive— from silent tears to desperate screams. Most of the time, I can't control the shakings, my face "marked" when I cry; I have a sensitive skin and red marks appear on my cheeks, near my eyes, almost like when a baby cries. My lips curl and tremble as much as my body does and get "bigger". I try not to cry in front of people even though I'm uncapable of controlling my tears. I don't want to make people sad through my own suffering, but at the same time I really want to be comforted, and I've also discovered that I've always been longing for someone who would "[i]fal

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