Wow... what an observation... and to be allowed to wipe her tears away. I find that a very intimate act - it's mainly my wife's tears I've wiped away and it's always turned me on - and sometimes ended up in bed!

​I have on occasion wiped tears from the cheeks of other women but every time I'm hugely turned on and I'm often worried they might be able to tell !

This is an old thread... almost 6 years since I asked the question... and what a difference those 6 years have made to my list of people who have seen me cry! I would need to work it out but reckon it's easily climbed from the 12 listed in 2011 to probably 30 odd!! Most of them in the last 2 years but it's been an incredibly difficult last 2 years!

​Amans lacrimae, you mentioned in your introduction post that you suffered from depression which caused you to cry more. Did you see anyone for your depression? If you did, did you not cry with this person? 

​Yes, wife's do tend to be ones to witness tears more than anyone else in our lives! Can't imagine how many tears my wife as seen, wiped away, kissed away!

TorNorth wrote:

I can answer this question now. Few months ago, I told my secret for the first time to a psycho-sexual therapist. She congratulated me for being brave enough to talk about it, as I was clearly stressed out and embarrassed. And then she kicked me out. No, really. She said she didn’t have skills enough to help me, and that I should see a specialist. I was quite annoyed as I hadn’t gone to her seeking help for my dacryphilia - I just mentioned it so that she’d know all the facts.

​This is really shocking! Knowing a bit about psychologists and counsellors and how they are supposed to work this is wrong! They are supposed to be supportive and non-judgemental - create an environment where you can work through issues openly, in an honest and safe way.

​To say she could not work with you because she did not have the skills - well she should have offered you someone who did have the skills not just cut you off! What if you had been a suicide risk! The relationship between client and counsellor is important and both should feel comfortable working together - and if for any reason they can't from either side then both should be comfortable saying this might not work between us - but you should then be offered another counsellor. It's possible she didn't want to work with someone with a crying fetish but if as you say she was a psycho-sexual therapist - well it comes with the trade so I don't believe the excuse of she was not trained.

​Very weird... I'd say you have grounds to go back and ask for another counsellor how can help and will listen to you - with whatever you bring up.   

I can only remember two observations (one male, one female) where the only reason for crying was physical pain. The guy I posted about before... trying to walk on a busted leg on crutches in the hospital - he was clearly in a lot of pain and because he was holding the crutches he was not able to wipe the tears running down his face! You could tell by the expression on his face and the quiet crying sounds he was making that he was definitely crying.

​The other was a woman at a place I worked - years ago - she played football (soccer to some of you) with us guys after work. She twisted her ankle really badly - at the time we wondered if she'd broken it! She was in agony - she was fighting the pain and it was like she just gave up and started crying - tears spilling down her cheeks - very nice actually!

​The only other event that close is my wife while she was giving birth - obviously a painful experience - several times during contractions she started to cry - sobbing with tears running down her cheeks in a room full of medical folk! Although she was clearly in physical pain there was obviously a fair bit of emotional pain so I'm not sure her tears were all physical pain related.

​I don't think I've ever cried just because of physical pain - and I've been though a lot of pain recently! My eyes have water to the point of tears leaking out but it didn't feel like crying - just a lot of effort. All the times I can say I'm definitely crying have been driven from mental not physical trauma. 

And most adults I have seen crying it's been an emotional not physical reason.

In an odd way I'm pleased you were able to cry - don't get me wrong I truly hope the 'stuff' that's hurting goes away - but, I honestly think the release will have done some good. It does not make the problems go away, you might not feel better right away(in fact you might feel worse!) but over time I convinced it helps. You definitely shed emotional tears - when was the last time that happened? Do you think if you'd been able to release the tears you felt at work there would have been more of them? I'm glad you let them flow a bit as well - as I say I hope things get better soon but perhaps now you know you can cry the tears will come easier the second time around - Take Care.