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Hi all, I've been lurking here a good while and thought it may be time to ask some questions.
I am coming here as a lover of a crying lover, wanting to get some more insight. It happened before but I never really gave it a good thought until it happened again recently. I know things of an adult nature are discouraged, so i will keep it pretty vague. I am a pretty tough lady both physically and emotionally, who is seeing a sadist, but a kind one (oxymoron, I know). Not being much of a masochistic person (though now I'm having second thoughts) and more of a sensation lover, we usually teeter the line of pain and pleasure. But this time he pushed me far enough to tears (our last encounter it happened and he revealed he enjoyed it, also we are consenting with safewords and respect each other's limits) and then stopped to encourage me to cry into him. It was that switch of being the cause to the cure that made me curious about dacryphellia as someone who is on the receiving end (something I noticed there's not a lot of here. Not a bad or good thing, just an observation).
So with a little background of what brings me here, I was wondering if you would share with me some "ah hah!" Moments of your discovery of your love for tears. Or just general thoughts as to what drives those wants, superficial or otherwise.
I guess I'm just looking for the other side of this equation. My partner just comes with a "I just like it" response and seems to be a bit embarrassed talking about it. Hope I haven't confused you all!
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I can't really pin down what started my love for tears but probably when I was at a childhood friends house and the animated movie adaptation of The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe was on and three girls crying at the Aslan torture scene
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I honestly don't know when or how my "thing" for crying began. It seems as though I've always been touched/turned on by guys crying, especially in films or plays. I'm simply unable to pinpoint the moment when it all started for me.
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I agree with White Tulip. It's the same for me - my thrill isn't sexual, it's visceral and is completely related to wanting to comfort the crier.
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I can't relate to the sadist thing, if I'm the one causing tears im not going to enjoy anything about it .
There's only been one time my enjoyment of tears was slightly sexualized, mostly it's an emotional high, experienced mostly through movies/tv
Speaking of, is there a word for that jolt you get in your stomach, that exciting feeling when you experience something triggering? I guess I'm curious as to what causes that medically .
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I just think it's hot. Tears are sensual and beautiful both visually and in meaning. The sound of crying to me is just a beautiful sound.