Well, keep us posted on your harem alpha. Did her lip or chin tremble at all?

NeedHerSobs wrote:

meantangerine wrote:

Okay, I've gotta ask. Are you involved in the kink community at large somehow? It seems like everyone you talk to is super willing to indulge you, and I have a hard time imagining that kind of open-mindedness in otherwise vanilla people!

 

Alright, you caught me. I am.

Hi NeedHerSobs... really curious about something!

I am not involved in the kink community, but I have looked into it in my area.  As best I can tell from the internet, there are two kinds of things going on locally... fetish balls (which to me just sound like dressing up in typical fetish wear and dancing all night), and BDSM clubs, which have a dancing/bar area in the front and a dungeon area in the back where full frontal nudity IS allowed (though sex is only allowed in the private rooms).  

Neither really sounds geared toward someone like me.  Dressing up sexy and dancing all night could be fun, but it seems like it's not about fetish indulgence, unless your costume (or other people's costumes) happen to be part of your fetish?  And while the dungeons sound intriguing (because you get to do scenes there!), they sound a bit too much for me, especially with the allowances for nudity and sex...

I do regard my crying fetish as sexual because I can be turned on by it at times, but I am not looking to satisfy it sexually with a partner at this time.  I am not asexual.  I am just in a traditional marriage with a vanilla partner who hasn't cried in over a decade and can't cry on demand.  My thought was that it would be nice to find some open-minded people to share in strange activities with (indulge each other's quirky interests), but not engage in sex or romantic relationships with them.  Basically just like being "friends with benefits" except the "benefits" are not benefits which are overtly sexual in nature (like getting to watch them cry).  So a crying fetishist meets a tickle-torture fetishist and they basically take turns making each other happy every other weekend or something like that.  Just letting loose and getting a bit weird with people.  Maybe even some consensual mind play?  The crying fetish is usually more of a mental turn-on than a physical one for me anyway (although when it's really good, it's the other way around!)    

Does such a "non-sexual" scene or interest exist within the kinkster scene, do you know?  It's OK if you don't, but either way, your perspective and thoughts would be much appreciated.  Maybe there is a name for the scene or type of situation I am looking for?  I feel there must be other unconventional people out there who want what I want (arrangement-wise), but I don't know whether it would be easier to find them by delving deep into the kink scene or whether I'm better off exploring a completely different avenue (and what that avenue might be).

Anyone's thoughts are appreciated!!
 

Update. She cried on me again today after after sex. Similar to late time, flowing tears, whimpers and sniffles, belly writhing and tightening but no sobbing or lip curl. I have noticed she tends to get big puppy eyes when she cries, so that's cute.

tearhunter wrote:

Amazing! I seriously love crying and sex - I posted ages ago about such an experience with my wife and I've since had another similar experience where we were both crying! Won't hijack your thread... one for later perhaps.

​What I'd like to know is more about the flow of her tears. Depending on the position she is in these tears could flow in a multitude of directions. What was a huge turn on for me was that my wife's tears flowed down her cheeks, neck to her breasts! Incredibly gorgeous - she was on top obviously. Also the feeling of her tears dripping onto my bare skin (when she leaned forward) is an insane turn on. I've had crazy dreams before where we have both been smeared in tears - skin wet from crying! Would take a flood of tears so probably not practical in real life - but one can dream  ;o)

​If you can (although you probably have reading some of your escapades) try and have her cry during sex. Feeling a woman's sobs from inside is another highlight. 

I can definitely testify about the latter. Two girls I used to hook up with a lot tended to cry during sex. It made them pulse around me.

It's hard to tell how much they flow, because her face is always buried into my chest. I feel the wetness, though. Girl I was with senior year of college, she was a wet crier. She wasn't into it as a fetish, but when she cried, I would hug her and my shoulder would be soaking wet by the time she was finished.