Let's start with us asking you. What do you like about crying?

Thanks for the quick responses!  I am a 21 year old female. I thought somthing was wrong with me when this started about 5 years ago, Im a virgin, so I don't really know TOO much about these things.
     It started the first time when my best female friend was in the car with me and started tearing up about something, I didn't know what to do so I just ignored it and kept talking to her, she turned her head away quickly so as not to let me see.     
     It was later that day or the next that every time I thought about it, my stomach made that strange lurching feeling, that feels wonderfull. (Is that normal? This is probably a really stupid question) and ever since that day Ive been obsessed with seeing her and others cry. Of course I would never want to hurt anyone, but I do pick out sad movies when I with her hoping she tear up. (is that bad?)
     We are still best friends, but I havn't seen it from her save for a few times when she hid it quickly. Im NOT gay, but it works just as well with men as women, but I have to know them/their character on tv to enjoy it. It's very specific to someone trying to hide the fact they are crying, and the sobbing/shaking does nothing for me. It isn't anything that I would want to lead to sex, especially not with my best female friend, but it does make me feel warm shooting pleasure in my stomach, which I DO NOT understand! help?

P.S when it first started i remember being in the car when my best friend got a phone call, she asked the person on the other end if they were crying, And just hearing her ask it made me litteraly double over with the thing in my somach. I can't explain it. but i really thought there was somthing wrong with me. except, it feels good.

Last edited by SomeoneG1 (April 23, 2012 1:43 am)

The problem is, im not sure how to discern between this stomach thing and a sexual feeling, i certainly dont want to have sex with my best friend, but i do want to comfort her when she is crying. However im very attracted to a few men on tv and I like it when they cry..

Hi SomeoneG1! Welcome to the forum! That's interesting on how your crying fetish started. I hope you enjoy it here!

Last edited by raindance85 (April 23, 2012 8:55 am)

Another 21 year old female! Yay!
I think I know what you mean with the confusion. For me, crying/comforting is a VERY sexual experience, but it's not exactly connected to sex. It's not like I want the crying to lead to sex, necessarily, but I get sexual pleasure out of it.

I mean, I think it's a wiring problem. Somehow the nurturing pathway in the brain got crossed with the sexual pathway. (I'm not sure, obviously, but I think that's basically why foot fetishes are so common.) That makes it really confusing to try to untangle these two desires that seem to be so together, but so separate at the same time. I've had some variation of this fixation (a childhood fascination that turned into a fetish) for as long as I can remember. So I'm pretty used to it, I guess. I can only imagine what it's like to have this sprout up in adolescence!