No one else got any experiences, either personally or that they have witnessed?

I'll add more information regarding my wife's emotions after giving birth. She remembers getting up in the morning 4 or 5 days after giving birth. She was still in hospital with our baby. She immediately felt different, low and emotional - just realising this was enough to caused tears to well up - but she blinked them back being on a full ward and not wanting to cry in front of other new mums. She was also aware that if she started to cry she might have problems stopping.

She got up and was generally ok until after lunchtime - still a bit low but no immediate emotions rising to the surface. Our baby was in special care and as she watched her the emotions started to come back. I think it was triggered by a feeling of helplessness as she could not care for our baby directly herself - nurses where doing that for her in first few days.

Her eyes started to fill with tears and she knew she was not going to be able to keep them at bay for much longer so she left for a walk outside the hospital building to try and get some privacy. She felt herself starting to cry as she approached the door leading outside and buy the time she was opening the door tears began to fall. She was blown away by the volume of tears streaming down her face. She was also starting to sob and because of her c-section this was getting painful. She looked for a seat outside but no seat was to be found - I remember her telling me she could not even see because of the constaint tears. She had lifted a pile of tissues but they were already soaked and uesless..

She re-entered the hospital and headed for the nearest toilet (at least she could sit down!) and continued to cry. But after a while she began to get worried that people coming into the toilet would hear her crying - she was unable to contain the sobbing. She was full on crying still with uncontrollable shaking of her shoulders. I was at work so did'nt see any of this but I'm fairly sure (given what I saw later) a BLT would have been present.

She walked back up to the ward still crying, avoiding eye contact with anyone on the way. A nurse found her in the ward corridor - still full on crying and sobbing. She tried to tell the nurse that nothing was wrong (and she meant it - she did not know why she was crying) but she broke down even further into loud sobs (by her accounts very loud) and could not make herself understood.

The nurse showed her into a private room (used for breast feeding privacy I think) and let her cry there. She continued to cry almost without stopping all afternoon. She was given her dinner in this room and as she eat tears continued to drip from her eyes off her nose into her food!

When I arrived at the hospital it took me a while to find her - I think I came across the nurse who put her in the room and she said she is have a bit of an emotional day. When I opened the door and saw her I was shocked. She had almost stopped crying but immediately started sobbing again, I don't think I've heard her cry so loudly before or since. Tears streamed down her face like a dripping tap - but surprisingly her eyes where not particularly red. Her bottom lip was trembling (very unusal for my wife) and she was unable to speak. Her face and neck were soaked with tears, her pale blue top was wet around the collar and countless tear drops were visible splashed across her breasts, even her jeans had visible tear drops splashed across them. The bucket beside her was full to the brim with discarded tissues - and it was a big bucket!

I held her in my arms tightly and allowed her to continue crying - I could feel her body shake as I held her- loud sobbing in my ear. I could feel tears dripping onto my shoulder and back. After 10mins of this (which feels like a very long time) I broke the embrace to see if I could help stop the crying. I watched as tears filled tear tracks on her face as fresh drops streamed down her face. Her eye lashes where all wet and sticking out at odd angles. Her eyes were full of tears, constanintly filling and draining - her eyes were a stunning smokey blue! After about another 15 mins she began to slow down again - I had to be careful not to say anything that might start her off (which she did a few times but only for a few minutes).

She started to cry again as I left later that evening - but she thought she was almost feeling empty as she put it - but completely exhausted.

She cried a few times the next day but not nearly as much as the day before. She was actually very tearful for about 4 - 5 months after giving birth. Crying a lot more frequently than is normal for her. Her emotions only really went back to normal when she stopped breast feeding.

So, that's a very detailed account of what my wife still says is the biggest and most tearful crying event of her life. She can't ever see herself beating it. She hoped not anyway!

Personally I wish I could invent a pill that would trigger even a tenth of the hormone change that fuelled this crying event. As my wife said countless times she had no idea really why she was crying. She felt low and sad but didn't think it warranted the tears it produced. So, without causing any real pain or hurt you get floods of tears!

Can't be bad can it 

Last edited by tearhunter (August 8, 2013 7:58 pm)

Wow, that's really cute carrotcake

Tearhunter, i remembered i also had a similar tearing event but only for 4 hours after an exam that i took for admission on highschool. A teacher told me after the exam that i was not allowed to use white paste corrector on my paper lest it will be dismissed and my parents argued me very hard that i didn't know the rules and used it all over my paper..

 I was so worked out over it and worried that when i came home i started sobbing really bad, with tears streaming continuously untill i had to take off my t shirt because it was soaked around the neck and on my chest.
I remembered wanting to cry in the school yard and later on streets while we were heading home but i refrained it and then when i was safe i burst..I cried for like 4 hours without stopping and then my mother gave me a light sedative. I felt dehydrated afterwards..
You know that if someone cries like that can even faint at one point..

Last edited by psychic_girl (August 9, 2013 11:12 am)

Now thinking in retrospect it was a build up that caused the tearing event, the stress before and during the exam ( i was my favourite domain and i wanted to score an A which i did finally), the shock upon finding out the bad news and grief since everyone was pushing me around and then embaressement . I didn't want my classmates to see me crying in the yard or the people on the streets so i posponed my outburst as long as i could.
So on this ocassion it's a very strong release of unpent emotions.
Your wife must have had the same thing building for many days in a row, worrying about the baby, not being able to care for it,having physical pain, embaressement etc.. So when the wave hit, it hit with tremedous force..

Last edited by psychic_girl (August 10, 2013 2:26 pm)

I watched a baby birthing programme once and the Dad was a soldier and heading to Afganistan very shortly afterwards. I remember him being worried that he would miss the birth. As it happened the baby arrived in time and he got very teary when it was born and it was really cute to see. However, what made it stand out to me was the fact that the mum was so intent on her new baby she had not noticed he was crying. When she found out afterwards she actually said she was disapponted to have missed it because she had NEVER seen him cry before lol. Obviously he was a pretty tough guy which made it even more sweet that he got emotional when his baby was born.

I have seen a few baby birthing programmes and I think that most women cry when their babies are born, but I love it when the new dads cry too. It's such a happy event so it's guilt free pleasure.