I guess adult people don't like to show a lip curl, because they think it is ugly, just like truffle said. They cover their mouth that you can't see it. I even remember my mom telling me to stop making this ugly face, must have been a lip curler as well as a kid. Children don't think about their look when they are crying up to a certain age. I think that is the reason why just children are described doing the lipcurl, because they show it more openly.

What you call the lip curl and the perfect cry face like Claire Danes is known to the wider public as the ugly cry. That's probably why.

I think in general people view their own crying as ugly. Or at least not very attractive, whether that crying includes a lip curl or just tears. People often say they wish they could do the "movie cry" - single perfect tears rolling down unblemished cheeks.

Crying for many involves tears, red swollen eyes, red nose, blotchy face, running or bunged up nose, distorted face, lip curl, emotional wobbly voice, sobbing or loud crying sounds and at times involuntary body movements such as shoulder shaking or whole body movements.

Most people don't like other people to see these crying characteristics. People will try and hide or disguise these characteristics by wiping tears away, blowing their nose and hide their face. Many people say they prefer to cry alone - even excluding partners and close friends. The primary reason is that they feel embarrased - and not because of the fact they are crying but because of how they look and the reaction of others. If you ask the question - 1-2-1 not in a group - "do you cry?" most will admit they cry sometimes. Almost every female will admit to crying and virtually every male will say something like - "well sometimes, not often".

Adults are more in control of their emotions and so to a degree can pick the times they cry. Or at least they can hold it to a level which enables them to escape to a safe place.

Of course some people are comfortable crying in front of others - more so if they are close to that person - I believe this is because they trust the person not to judge why they are crying or make fun of how they look when they are crying. But, even in these circumstances it's rare for someone to completely lose it and display their fully range of crying characteristics.

Our fetish is rare, and I think TorNorth your particular blend is even rarer still (not wrong by the way) - most think it is ugly and therefore will do there upmost to hide it - which means we never get to see that many extreme crying events and lip curling usually occurs in extreme crying events which people are unable to control.

I wish also that people would cry more in public but I think attitudes have to change quite a bit before it happens on a regular basis - a shame really.

Anyway just my thoughts...


 

Last edited by tearhunter (March 26, 2014 8:08 pm)

Our fetish is rare, and I think TorNorth your particular blend is even rarer still

Very true Sometimes I've wondered if this is dacryphilia at all, since most dacryphiliacs are into tears, comforting or sadomasochism (and a smaller mention for tissues). At times I've thought it's just a lip fetish. But crying has just too much to do with it for it to not be.