I see, wow eleven years with your husband and still he hasn’t wiped your tears, I know it’s not an easy subject, based on experience I’ll give you a hint, sometimes when my wife is crying and I allow her tears to flow unchecked, she has taken my hand and pressed it on her cheek, I definitely feel her warm tears on my hand. Once there I continue wiping and kissing her tear streaked cheeks.
So, even if you don’t want him to see your tears, you can take one of his hands when you break the hug and bring it to your cheek, guiding it to a tear and slowly sliding it down your tear streak, you can see his reaction, one out of two, either he likes the feeling and continue wiping your tears (at this point you will definitely have to allow him to see your tear streaked face), or he will act as if nothing happened, you will have to understand it is not in his interest to wipe your tears.
Same to you Azutid, if you already found the correct company for you or a good friend you trust, if he doesn’t take the initiative, you can hold hands for a few moments, then guide your hand while still holding his to wipe your tears. That is a very subtle way to hint your need a o have your tears wiped without exposing yourself to rejection.