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Crying Discussion » Anyone else this picky?? » Today 10:34 am

tearhunter
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Yes I can be picky... I also like to see tears flowing in the eyes, rolling unchecked down an attractive female face when the camera is in pin sharp focus and the lighting is good.

​Anything less and yes the clip drops gradually down the rankings.

​Are you able to re-watch clips that tick all the boxes? New clips are great and I spend too much time looking for new ones but if I can't find a new good one I tend to drop back to an old favourite to relive the frustration.

Crying Discussion » Male Observation... » Today 10:28 am

tearhunter
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woundedpuppy wrote:

You make me think I should look for an attractive male counsellor. http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/wink.png
  I have thought of this before, of course, but for all the money I would spend on one, I have seriously doubted I could say anything moving enough that would make him cry.  My problems and disappointments in life seem to mostly be due to my flaws as opposed to some dramatic, touching or powerful story I could tell.  But anyway, interesting to hear what your counsellor said and how he dealt with everything.  

Kind of a weird question and I know you have no other context in which you know him, but do you think if you were to have met him in another way if you would have been able to tell if he was the type who would cry openly and be very open about others crying?  In other words, is there a sort of vibe exuding from him that you think would be perceptible outside of the counselling office as being that type of guy?  Some men with a gentle voice or sweet personality strike me as being more likely to be criers, for example, or who have mannerisms that are more feminine, although these things don't necessarily correlate...

​Difficult question to answer because right from our first discussions he admitted that from time to time he cries. I think he is an emotional guy and from what I know if him I'm sure he does cry outside the counselling room in his personal life. He had a very open attitude to crying. He was very much a guy who believed cry and shed tears was generally a beneficial thing to do - I believe he would practise what he preached and cry when he needed to.

​I would not say that any of your personal struggles could not make a counsellor cry. Again I thinks it's all about the counsellor feeling and then showing empathy. I don't know for certain but I think what I was talking about that day brought something up for him that was personal and moving for him. Where his professionalism came in was that he

Crying Discussion » Male Observation... » Today 10:15 am

tearhunter
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TorNorth wrote:

I'm impressed that a counsellor would let himself do that. I always think of counsellors as people who are always in control - people who are helpful and understanding but always a little distant and analytical. Obviously him crying in front of you helped ease your reservations about crying in front of another man. I don't know if that would work in my case. Like you I think I'd be more comfortable crying in front of a woman than a man. I'm also far less comfortable watching another man cry.

​I think it was because we got on so well and by this point had built up a good relationship. We had a number of things in common. He was all that you mention above, supportive, analytical but not distant - he was very empathic and I felt he understood and felt what I was going through. Perhaps it's his sense of empathy that caused him to cry.

​As I said before I was not keen to have a male counsellor because I was not comfortable crying in front of another guy. But when the reasons for crying are so big and powerful you eventually don't care about the tears! I was focusing on dealing with some really big and difficult issues which ultimately were more important to tackle than worrying about my crying and who was watching. It one of these being in that situation moments I think. 
 

Crying Discussion » Had another go today » Today 10:07 am

tearhunter
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Interesting... if I was to make myself cry I don't think it would work for me by going through the motions as you tried to do by making yourself sob. For me it has to be the emotion welling up inside - sometimes I can feel it raise up side and it feels like when that feeling reaches my eyes tears start. If it was to try and make myself cry I would need to try and recreate that feeling.

​Your right... finding the right trigger is difficult, and it can change depending on how you are feeling at any given time. I think actors/actresses use personal triggers to make themselves cry it just finding the right one for you at the right time.

Crying Discussion » Anyone else this picky?? » Today 5:31 am

caircair wrote:

For me, it's not just about "real" tears, it's about the sounds. I want to hear the choked voice, the sobbing, the gasps as he (since I'm strictly into male crying) tries to keep control.

I adore the choked voice and gasps/sighs... auditory proof that there is a lack of control... to have it is definitely better than just the visual alone!!  But I'm not a rapid sobbing fan.  Too many actors seem to go from basically nothing to burying their head and sobbing.  Easier to fake, I think.
 

Crying Discussion » Anyone else this picky?? » Today 12:59 am

caircair
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For me, it's not just about "real" tears, it's about the sounds. I want to hear the choked voice, the sobbing, the gasps as he (since I'm strictly into male crying) tries to keep control.

Crying Discussion » Anyone else this picky?? » Yesterday 10:01 pm

So after a loooong break away from my fetish and the forum, I have come back recently.  Unfortunately, new frustrations are emerging to replace my old frustrations.  Oh well, at least the old frustrations are basically gone, which is great! http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/wink.png


Although infrequency of real-life observations doesn't seem to bother me anymore (seriously, it's true!), the new frustration seems to be that when it comes to video clips, I'm not really satisfied with anything short of the full money shot!!  Anything else is still interesting but such a tease for me.  I want to see tears forming in the eyes and then rolling down the cheeks and in a way that hasn't been faked or edited.  I want to see those tears the MOMENT they are leaving the eyes and I need to see them roll.  Anything short of this frustrates me because I feel like I'm so close yet not quite where I need to be to feel satisfied... which then sends me searching and searching for something I usually can't find... and wasting precious time when I should be doing other things... 

Not only that, but the other thing is that I don't seem to be interested in just anyone crying, unfortunately!  Beyond people I know personally, it's only certain actors or certain other public figures who seem to be of interest to me now (of which there aren't many in my case).  And again, since I want the full money shot, this makes it a really specific fetish at the moment that is difficult to satisfy... 

So yeah, my own fussiness and obsessiveness is getting in the way of my enjoyment of the fetish yet I feel unwilling to change my tastes.  I'm not sure if I could change them anyway.  Although I could make an effort to step away from the whole thing as I have before.  I'm hoping not to do that this time.  

Can anyone else relate on some level?

Crying Discussion » Produced a couple of female crying videos » Yesterday 9:07 pm

TorNorth
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For a better view, here's a video preview of the first clip as posted in iwantclips:

https://cryinglipcurling.tumblr.com/post/163518186018

@tearhunter: I would love to see your playlist if you made one. I'm always on the lookout for crying women lists.

@reptongeek: There was a time when I'd save any crying videos on the playlist, whether it had lip curls or not. I regret doing that now, because the playlists are full of stuff I don't care to revisit. I recently started a playlist titled "crying women (nlc) - where I save videos that don't really have lip curls but there's still something I liked about it, plenty of tears to see there - though there's plenty of tears in the lip curl videos as well.

@truffle: Ahaha, the King was slightly disappointed with the second one. Did you watch the videos?

Crying Discussion » Male Observation... » Yesterday 8:57 pm

You make me think I should look for an attractive male counsellor. http://cdn.boardhost.com/emoticons/wink.png
  I have thought of this before, of course, but for all the money I would spend on one, I have seriously doubted I could say anything moving enough that would make him cry.  My problems and disappointments in life seem to mostly be due to my flaws as opposed to some dramatic, touching or powerful story I could tell.  But anyway, interesting to hear what your counsellor said and how he dealt with everything.  

Kind of a weird question and I know you have no other context in which you know him, but do you think if you were to have met him in another way if you would have been able to tell if he was the type who would cry openly and be very open about others crying?  In other words, is there a sort of vibe exuding from him that you think would be perceptible outside of the counselling office as being that type of guy?  Some men with a gentle voice or sweet personality strike me as being more likely to be criers, for example, or who have mannerisms that are more feminine, although these things don't necessarily correlate...

Crying Discussion » Male Observation... » Yesterday 8:54 pm

TorNorth
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I'm impressed that a counsellor would let himself do that. I always think of counsellors as people who are always in control - people who are helpful and understanding but always a little distant and analytical. Obviously him crying in front of you helped ease your reservations about crying in front of another man. I don't know if that would work in my case. Like you I think I'd be more comfortable crying in front of a woman than a man. I'm also far less comfortable watching another man cry.

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