I noticed that thing with the tears as well but only in public situations. If someone cries in public and hides the face or i do it later on the sadness bottles up inside and i don't feel relief anymore and i presume others feel the same.
For me though crying is not comforting if there are reasons for me feeling sad, depressed or vulnerable. But on one ocasion i read a book, an autobiograhy of Walden Welch, an astrologer who had a very hard life and though i didn't identify with him at first, during my reading later on  i managed to empathize with him and i started sobbing uncontrollably. It was a very different type of sobbing, moreover a catarthic one that had nothing to do with my experiences. It felt as a relief somehow because the caracther feared losing his mother who was very sick and i fear that too though i have never been in such situations..He made me put myself in his shoes which was a wonderful experience, very intense actually.
I was glad i was all by myself since my mother was at work and i had all day to relieve the signs of a powerfull crying, swollen eyes, red lips, rusty voice and such..

psychic_girl wrote:

I noticed that thing with the tears as well but only in public situations. If someone cries in public and hides the face or i do it later on the sadness bottles up inside and i don't feel relief anymore and i presume others feel the same.
For me though crying is not comforting if there are reasons for me feeling sad, depressed or vulnerable. But on one ocasion i read a book, an autobiograhy of Walden Welch, an astrologer who had a very hard life and though i didn't identify with him at first, during my reading later on  i managed to empathize with him and i started sobbing uncontrollably. It was a very different type of sobbing, moreover a catarthic one that had nothing to do with my experiences. It felt as a relief somehow because the caracther feared losing his mother who was very sick and i fear that too though i have never been in such situations..He made me put myself in his shoes which was a wonderful experience, very intense actually.
I was glad i was all by myself since my mother was at work and i had all day to relieve the signs of a powerfull crying, swollen eyes, red lips, rusty voice and such..

 
Perhaps it works best to cry openly only if you can do so without any feelings of embarrasment. If you are in floods of tears, sobbing your heart out you are also incredibly vunerable. If you feel that vunerablity then perhaps you don't receive the benefits associated with crying openly.

For me I would only get these benefical feelings after crying in front of someone I completely trust.

With family members, my mother mostly i manage to get over my embarassement and i openly cry. It depends on the conflict, if it's one that involves me personally and not my mother she doesn't completely understand why i react the way i do, why i get that emotional since she is the intellectual type, she analyses eveything in a rather dry or cold manner while i'm very impulsive and emotional.

Other people are pretty amazed too because they know me as being composed and discreet, not necessarily an intellectual as my mother but rather the kind who's flexible enough to navigate through problems or make fun at oneself when in trouble. Yeah, i'm so perceived and it bothers me because deep inside i seethe at times, i feel very intensely and i would like to manifest what i feel but i know it's unacceptable for most people, they will no longer respect me of i become more passionate..
This is the same with persons of the opposite gender, who take me for a good, shy and somewhat conservative girl. The one you would like to marry one day and on the why they get a different picture actually and it pisses me off...