1 | Crying Discussion » Do you let your children see you cry? » April 26, 2021 11:59 pm |
- carrotcake
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I'm actually pregnant with my first right now, but I think it's healthy for your children to see you cry. I hope to teach our son that tears are a natural reaction to a variety of emotions, and that there's no shame and no reason to hide them. This is true in any situation, but especially after a very upsetting event - I think that while (young) kids shouldn't be responsible for comforting/caring for their parents, NOT seeing your parent cry after a death, for example, can lead them to think they should repress their emotions and not let them out, even around family. My dad's father died when my dad was just a kid, and he never saw his mother cry, not once. He grew up pretty uncomfortable with emotional expression (his own and others'). He's gotten a little more comfortable as he's aged, interestingly.
Anyway, I always felt slightly uncomfortable seeing my mother cry (or my dad, the couple of times I did), but I think this was partly because of my fetish.
| Other and Related Fetishes » Anyone's crying kink expand to laughing as well? » November 10, 2020 7:25 pm |
- carrotcake
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I've actually thought about this. It seems there'd be so many more good obs with a laughing fetish than a crying fetish! Short answer is that sometimes when my husband laughs, the parts of it that are similar to his crying do turn me on, such as his shaking stomach/shoulders, bobbing throat, and gasps. The mouth is too different from the crying mouth, I think.
Interestingly, this only happens with my H, because I'm so intimately acquainted with both his laughing and his crying, so I see the parallels very clearly. I've never been aroused by the laughter of a friend or stranger.
| Crying Discussion » Fantasy about comforting in a restroom » August 21, 2020 9:40 pm |
- carrotcake
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Lately, I keep coming back to a fantasy I have about comforting another woman in a public bathroom. I imagine that I either enter the bathroom while the other woman is already in a stall, or she comes in while I'm in a stall. Either way, we don't actually ever see each other.
In the fantasy, I hear some soft sounds that I think might be sobs, but clearly she is trying to control her breathing. Eventually, I hear a gasp that is clearly an uncontrolled sob. Once I've figured out she's crying, I imagine that I ask her what's wrong and talk her through letting it out, while just listening to her sob more and more intensely and letting her know that I'm here to listen. Afterward, she thanks me for being there, and I leave. Again, we never see each other.
This is such an unlikely situation to happen in real life because I think if I were in this position, I'd feel pretty awkward about actually talking to the woman. I've seen women crying in bathrooms before, but nothing beyond wiping a few tears and washing up at the sink (and not for years). I've never spoken to any of them because I figure they don't want to be calling attention to their tears, and they've never looked upset enough that they need immediate help. But the thought of talking someone through their feelings while they anonymously sob a few feet away from me is incredibly arousing to think about!
| Crying Discussion » The "self-service" thread » August 21, 2020 9:33 pm |
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1. Frequently. I usually fantasize about crying when I do it.
2. I usually remember a real observation or watch videos/listen to audio. I fantasize often about crying situations that have not actually happened, but not while I'm doing that. Sometimes it leads to it, though.
3. Frequently in the days following a good husband obs (which he appreciates!), and also a few times after seeing people break down in real life.
4. Yes - some of the best obs with my husband, some videos I love that I can conjure in my mind, a particular time I saw a coworker sobbing hysterically.
| Crying Discussion » Similarities between laughter and crying » July 21, 2020 9:07 pm |
- carrotcake
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This is random, but my husband's laughter shares some traits with his crying - similar vocalizations, belly hitching, Adam's apple bobbing. Of course, it sounds like laughter, but if he's laughing really hard, my mind sometimes makes the connection. I noticed this when we were lying in bed, and I had my head on his stomach - he started to laugh, but it was so similar to his sobs that it started to turn me on.
This got me thinking about similarities between laughing and crying, and I'm wondering if everyone's laughter and tears share some common traits. I think my laughter is somewhat similar in pitch to my sobs, but I actually inhale much more sharply after laughing hard than I do after even very intense sobs. I don't notice the subtleties of laughter nearly as much, though I was also thinking that anyone with a laughter fetish is lucky to get much more frequent observations!
| Crying Discussion » What do you feel when seeing someone cry? » July 21, 2020 8:59 pm |
- carrotcake
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I feel an extreme desire to comfort/help/hold the person, and I feel pangs of empathy in my chest. As truffle said, I feel the bond between us strengthen. It's physically painful to see my husband cry and not hold him, and the few times he's cried over the phone have been almost unbearable. Once, he was out of town when something bad happened, and he sobbed to me over the phone. He wasn't coming back until the next day, and I barely slept at all - I got up at 3 AM to clean and make cookies. It was such a relief when he got home and we could hold each other.
I definitely feel aroused, but it's not an immediate desire for sex - I get all the physical signs of arousal right away, but my mind isn't there, even with my husband. When I hold him as he cries, I feel warmth, love, a desire to protect him, a strong connection between us. But I don't think about sex; if we do have sex afterward (which does happen frequently), it's usually after the crying has stopped and things have been resolved, and he usually initiates.
With someone who isn't my sexual/romantic partner, I still react physically with arousal, but sex doesn't occur to me. Crying and arousal are so closely linked in my mind that even seeing a random woman cry will make me physically react (I'm not sexually attracted to women).
| Crying Discussion » Has anyone else read a book that made them ugly-cry? If so, what book? » June 23, 2020 8:16 pm |
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A lot of books have made me tear up or sob briefly. I don't know if I've ever sobbed with that intensity, but probably. I read a lot, so I'm sure something has made me cry more than just a couple tears; I just can't think of what right now. We're currently trying for our first child, so anything about children or babies makes us both emotional.
There was a book recently that made my husband cry; I can't remember what it was right now. He finished it at home while I was out at the store, and he texted me that he couldn't read the last few pages because his eyes were so blurred with tears. He then expressed disappointment that he hadn't waited until I got home to finish it, and that he would have if he'd guessed that he would cry.
| Crying Discussion » Obs - crying during movie (H and me) » June 23, 2020 8:07 pm |
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Amans lacrimae wrote:Hello Carrotcake, as always, your obs are amazing. I remember your husband doesn't shed that many tears, was he more tearful this time?
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Did his face become completely wet or were his tear streaks still visible, did his tears go beyond his cheeks?This was a couple years ago, so I don't remember exactly, but I think he sheds more tears when he's holding back his sobs. He did sob a lot, but he also spent time holding back sobs because he didn't want to interrupt his own watching of the movie. I think the tension of holding back the sobs somehow causes him to produce more tears and release them down his cheeks. Generally, he doesn't hold back sobs at all; he just immediately progresses to rapid-fire sobs without a period of biting back tears or having them well up. Usually when he does produce more tears, there will be a couple of streaks, along with a pool of tears that starts beneath his eyes and gradually coats his face.
| Crying Discussion » Which part of the eye do you prefer tears to fall from the most? » June 10, 2020 3:59 pm |
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Outer corner or middle, and I also like large pools of tears that gather under the eye. Tears aren't my focus, but I like kissing and wiping them from the side of the cheek, as well as the wetness that accumulates when the person is lying down and tears drip into their hair.
| Crying Discussion » Lots of crying last night » May 19, 2020 7:02 pm |
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TorNorth wrote:
I've got quite a lot of frustrating observation of women sobbing quite intensely but no lip curl. This is why I think the lip curl element is "built in" to the face for some people but not others. Could be wrong though.
I was alone that night. I was quite taken aback by the intensity.I agree - in the same way that everyone's smile curves differently, everyone opens their mouth differently when they laugh, etc., I think facial and muscular structure must determine the size and shape of the lip curl. There are so many shapes that could be classified as a lip curl: pulled back, pulled down, lips more open or closed in the center, and of course, a full bulge that completely engages the chin. It's fascinating to me how everyone cries so differently (in appearance, sound, volume of tears) despite the commonalities that we all recognize.