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Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 13, 2022 1:11 am

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Thank you! It's nice to see it's appreciated!

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 12, 2022 2:27 am

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These are difficult questions. I've just started to pay attention to all those small details not long ago, so a lot of things aren't really clear to me, too.

As for the hot or cold tears: I've just recently noticed that there might be a difference of temperature, but I'm not sure about the conditions. I've noticed that when tears build up over some time when my eyes get really blurry, I can anticipate the moment the tear will flow from my eye, because a short moment before it feels a tiny bit cooler. So it may be the other way round: If they are larger, they might be a bit cooler, because of the build up in the eyes. But it might also be that instead it is cooler when it takes longer for the tear to leave the eye. I will try to pay attention to it in the future.

As for your second question: I'm not sure about that, either. I think there are several conditions that affect the size of the tears. Intensity of crying certainly is a thing, but a really intense feeling for me might lead to sobbing, which for me can be without tears, as I close my eyes, and then the tears go into the tearduct instead of flowing down the cheek. One factor ist blinking: If I blink more often, then the tears will be smaller. Another factor definitely is if I'm hydrated or not, so my partner often reminds me of drinking enough water. So, being in love with a dac has it's advantages for my health! But I will try to pay attention to this question, as well.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 5:36 am

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I think the right one was bigger than the left one. And when they are big, yes, they sometimes feel a bit cold, and as I remember, this was the case here, too. The right one ran over my cheek as far as my chin, the left one only to the middle of the cheek. And yes, it was a single tear from each eye.

How did Teargazer react? He's already written something. I would like to add that he offered me a hug as soon as he saw that I was tearing up, but I signalled him to wait because I hoped that a tear would come if I didn't change too much. And after the tears did come, I was already happy about the tears, so I didn't need any more comforting.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 4:48 am

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5. We were in a videochat discussing a text we wanted to write together, and I had shown Teargazer my first draft. He suggested some cuts, and that felt really difficult to me.

I felt how my eyes got blurry, and I gave him a sign to stop talking, and pointed to my eyes. I waited a bit, striving to keep that feeling, and felt how a tear welled up in my right eye. And then it ran down my cheek, coming from the middle of the eye, running down to my cheek. And a short while later a tear came from my left eye, running down about halfway down my cheek. I was curious how far they would run, and if there might be more of them, but then we said something funny, and the crying stopped.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 4:47 am

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4. During the day we were talking, and I got emotional. I got blurry eyes, a weepy voice, and I was sniffling. Teargazer offered me a virtual hug, which I accepted.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 4:46 am

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3. Then we finished playing minecraft, and Teargazer got upset because his laptop had technical issues.

I felt helpless, as I could neither help him solve it nor calm him down. I sobbed three times, with sniffling.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 4:44 am

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1. Teargazer and I, we were playing Minecraft on a server, and were somewhere I've never been before (the nether). He was digging down, and I had to wait till he came back.

I was so afraid, waiting there alone, with creepy noises, afraid he might fall into lava or be attacked by dangerous creatures and die, while I would be unable to help him.

My eyes filled with tears, and I hugged myself, and talked to him sounding really weepy. This took about 10 minutes, until he came back unscathed.

A little while later, I was still afraid, and Teargazer offered me a virtual hug, something we do often. so I hugged myself, imagining that he would be hugging me, and started to whimper and sniffle. But then I started to laugh, because of the way that sound mixed with the background noises of the game, and we continued playing.

2. I had calmed down again, but after a while, as I tried a new digging technique, I felt slow and that I was delaying him.

I started to cry; my voice turned weepy and somewhat high-pitched, I started sobbing audibly (lasting about 12 secs), and I was sniffling.

We continued playing, but I was stressed out, and sobbed shortly and audibly, two times, and in between my voice became really scared and weepy and high pitched, and I was sniffling.

After working for a while, I suddenly burst out "I can't do it", really high pitched, sniffled, and sobbed short but rather loud. After explaining my difficulties I sobbed again, longer (15 secs), but not so loud as before.

Crying Discussion » Small self obs (female) of this weekend » April 11, 2022 4:42 am

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These are some small observations, so please don't expect too much. I have been crying, but had no tears, except for the last situation. I will be writing them from my point of view, but as Teargazer has seen all of it, he will be glad to describe it from his poit of view as well.

Introduce Yourself » Introduction of Teargzer and Blurry Eyes (couple) » April 9, 2022 1:20 am

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Amans lacrimae wrote:

Oh, quite a fast response, of course, feel free to post your "minor obs" as well, I guess pandemic didn't help for meeting, is distance really an issue between you (I mean is long distance really long, or is there a chance for meeting relatively soon)

You mention not minding crying in public, have you ever had your tears wiped?

I can't remember to ever have my tears wiped, at least not as an adult. My previous partner called it manipulative when I cried (can you believe that?), so you couldn't expect him to wipe my tears. And I don't have friends who are close enough to do that.

Introduce Yourself » Introduction of Teargzer and Blurry Eyes (couple) » April 9, 2022 1:02 am

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Thank you, Amans lacrimae, for your kind welcome. We are really excited to now be a part of the forum.

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