Amans lacrimae wrote:

Welcome back Carrotcake, I missed your obs, as usual beautiful obs, I guess you must have looked beautiful with your lip curled and tears streaming unchecked down your face, this would have been a great opportunity to record you crying, as you once said you’d like to. Every time I read your obs I kind of mirror when my wife does the same and I have the same reaction your H has.

I was wondering, do your tears take the same path when rolling down your cheeks, or do you feel several streams of tears? Does your H start kissing them as soon as they start falling or does he allow them to roll down your face? About your H tears, does he shed a couple of tears or do they stream down his face? Have you seen so many tears on his face that individual streaks are no longer visible?

I think it depends on what position I'm in. If I'm standing, the tears tend to stream down the same tracks, but if my head is tilted at all, they flow all over my face. My H will sometimes kiss them as soon as they leave my eyes, but if they fall down my face, he will usually wipe them with his fingertips or let them sit there (sometimes I will wipe them if there are a lot of them).

My H doesn't shed a large volume of tears. If he just chokes up, tears won't actually fall, but if he's sobbing, they tend to pool below his eyes. If he's sitting up and looking straight at me, sometimes single tears will fall down his face intermittently. There was a specific time I rememeber where he was sobbing really hard for about half an hour in my arms, and when he'd lift his head, his face would be covered with a sheen of tears (not individual tracks). I also often wipe or kiss them when they first pop out of his eyes - I personally do like tears, but they're not my main focus during the crying, and I love wiping them/taking care of him/comforting him even more than I like to watch them fall.

TorNorth wrote:

Sweet obs! If I had a woman crying on my arm doing a big lip curl, I'd sneakily try to feel her lips and chin with my fingers.

I definitely do touch my H's face and lips if I can't see them while he's crying. He knows I like lips, so he wouldn't care if he realized what I was doing, but I try to be surreptitious so as not to distract us/make it seem obvious that I'm feeling his face. I also sometimes will hold him for a while on my chest (which also arouses me) and then lift his face up to mine when he's sobbing and I think there will be a nice lip curl.

She sounded young. It wasn't that frustrating because I'm not sure exactly what I would have done if a stranger had started sobbing right in front of me. I know I fantasize about that, but in the moment it's often extremely uncomfortable. 

My husband knows. I'm very lucky because not only is he understanding, he also really loves it and actively suggests incorporating it into our sex life. My ex also knew and was fine with it. I tend to be a little insecure about it, but they both reassure(d) me that it wasn't weird and that it was part of what made me the empathetic/comforting person they love(d).

Dacrypticphile, that is exactly the fear that sits in the back of my mind: that my H will somehow worry that I'll enjoy his pain too much. Whenever I say that, he says, "but I like when you enjoy things" and hugs me. So I have to take him at his word.

He also goes out of his way to cry in front of me, text me any time something makes him tear up, show me his teary eyes when we're watching a movie or whatever, and tell me he doesn't want to cry around or be comforted by any woman but me. He also has started getting aroused when either of us cries, which is an interesting development for sure.

Really interesting observation yesterday. My husband and I were taking the bus home, and we sat across from a middle-aged guy who struck up a conversation with us. I had the feeling he was a social person who had a hard life and is now pretty lonely, because he launched into a lot of detail about his personal life, his past, and his trip to the store. After he'd been talking to us for about 5 minutes, he started talking about an emotional event he'd witnessed, and he said to us, "I think I'm actually going to cry about this."

The whole thing was a bit uncomfortable, of course; this complete stranger was sharing really personal stuff with us and was about to break down. But honestly, I didn't mind listening to him talk at all. He was very friendly, even if he was being a bit socially awkward.

Anyway, as he predicted, he started to cry a few seconds later. He kept talking, but his eyes filled with tears and started to stream down his face. He wiped them away as they streamed steadily while he spoke. I didn't hear any catch in his voice, although he did pause a couple of times to take a deep breath. This went on for about 10 minutes, and eventually he gathered his composure and changed the subject - we reached our stop shortly thereafter. It was a fascinating experience.