Lillianne wrote:

I'm definitely more on the comforter side, too...but sometimes I wonder if there's a little tiny smidge of something twisted thrown in there too. I love the idea of a man near tears, and he's at your mercy in a way; such as, he's right on the brink and by one little comment or gesture you make, encouraging him to cry, he falls off the edge. And you're there to catch him, of course.  But still I find myself feeling a little bit conflicted about that particular fantasy now and then.

I know the conflicted feeling very well, but I think you nailed it -- you're there to *catch* him when he falls off the edge, so I think that's the main thing.  Either that, or I'm a bit twisted too.

What are the other kinks you have, Lillianne, if you don't mind me asking?  I have a kink for sneezing and other nasal symptoms from allergies.  It's the loss of control thing.

Welcome, Lillianne!

Like most other people here, I also think my fetish is almost entirely about comforting. My fantasies about crying are not satisfying if they involve only one person - it's all about the interaction, and the emotional support. But I feel like there must be a little part of me that's a bit sadistic too, I guess, because of the fact that when people seem a little bit unhappy, I always hope they'll cry and sometimes they would need to be a lot more unhappy to be at that stage, and though I don't actually want people to be unhappy, it's often a necessary element to crying. Willing it feels uncomfortably sadistic but I cannot help wanting to see that vulnerable side. Additionally, for me it is hotter when the person crying is reluctant to, and feels embarrassed, which slightly cancels out the idea that crying can be positive - if the person is uncomfortable about crying then is it really doing them good? I guess it could be relieving and embarrassing at the same time. But like you say, I believe there might be 'a little tiny smidge of something twisted' underneath the nurturing desire. The fact that we all worry about the ethical side to enjoying crying would suggest we can't be too bad though, I like to think. And it's not like we can help it!

Lemonie x

Thank you everyone for the welcomes!

Aww, whatever happened on April Fools Day, I missed it! Sorry about disappearing for a while, life's been busy hehe, but I'm still here! Woundedpuppy, that's funny, my other primary kink is actually sneezing and allergy symptoms too, and colds/caretaking. It sure is a small world...but the two fetishes are quite similar, they do indeed both have the common thread of loss of control. I also have a bit of a thing for blindfolds, handcuffs, and even sort of the idea of dominance...but I think I would only enjoy the incorporation of such things if the other person enjoyed it too. I'm still a little confused about my fascination with kind of sadistic things despite the fact that I don't technically consider myself a sadist, due to the fact that I'm very turned off by the thought of actually inflicting any pain. (also, this is unrelated, but...I feel like I kinda have a fetish for guys who have foot fetishes, if that's possible, lol! I don't have one myself but I always thought foot fetishes were cute...even though it's not in a sexual way, I like having my feet touched for some reason. Just thought I'd mention it, heehee!)

How did you guys find your way to this group?

I found it through the sneeze fetish forum too, I'm a long-time lurker on there as well haha!