Two of my bfs have been dacs. They don't know the word for it, but they say they get turned on when they're sad or when they cry. Not sure if it's dac or if it's just seeking out comfort behavior?

They don't know that I am one though because I feel like I'd be made fun of or even making the wrong impression of being sadistic if I say I like seeing their tears lol.

I'm really guarded about it, I pretty much only tell partners and only after we've been seeing each other a while. I think there's only a couple friends I haven't slept with who know. 

Usually I tell them that I'm attracted to crying, but emphasize that for me it's the opposite of a BDSM crying fetish. That for me it's related to the desire to comfort and care for the person who is crying. Usually I also describe it as a combination of being attracted to the physical act of crying and tears with my broader sexuality of being into taking care of someone who is open and vulnerable. 

Last edited by purposehans (November 18, 2020 2:12 am)

I haven't really shared it with anyone except Conn and he's a "dac" (more so than me because he likes actual tears whereas I'm into comforting and being comforted, though I do like having tears run down my face). And as far as I know, he hasn't shared it with anyone else but me, but I guess if either of us was to ever share it with others, it might not be very different from how it went between us, because neither of us knew that the other was a dac until we shared it with each other (you can read about that here).

truffle wrote:

When I was younger I used to be really careful about hiding it. Then I realized that sharing it is the best way to get what I want from a romantic partner.

I'm in the early stages of a romantic relationship with a guy right now (who I've posted about before a couple of times) and I've tried being subtle about it but he's not taking the hint, so my plan is to literally sit down with him and tell him about it clearly. We're all adults and life is too short to beat around the bush with stuff like this. In my opinion of course.

That is true! Once I tell a partner, and they're someone who is comfortable making themselves cry, it usually leads to them wanting to plan watching a sad movie with me. 

I don't talk about my dacryphilia specifically, I may talk about tears or crying, sometimes people surprise me with their answers or physical response, but still, I am extremely reserved with the subject, not even my wife knows about it.