Awesome, glad to hear it.

I'm glad things are starting to look up.  I know what it's like.  I've been there.  Keep on doing what you're doing and God be with you.

A sad and truly devastating update....

2 and a half weeks ago, her mum eventually passed away. She went in her sleep. Its obviously been a horrible and hugely emotional time for my GF, and she's not dealing with it at all well. She's now lost both of her parents, and im getting increasingly concerned. The day she died, my GF had cried pretty much non-stop. We had sat down and i had held her in my arms and we sat there for a long time, as she silenty sobbed into my chest. She didn't want to let go, and i wasn't going to let go. Some tears rolled down my cheek as well, as seeing her this way broke me. I keep a brave face for her, and im sure she appreciates it, as to be expected she does break down into tears quite a lot, and i try to make sure im there for her as often as i can. Work gave her some time off work throghout this time, and she has hardly left the house..im getting worried because she has gone back to not eating again..im forcing her to drink, but she's losing weight from the grief and its really breaking me seeing her this way..

Speaking as women i can tell you that the biggest mistake men make when comforting a woman is the idea of keepinga brave face for her. If you feel tears coming i promise you there is  as comforting, truly consoling  as when someone who loves you cries with you fit your suffering.  There are no words and no embraces that will make her feel as loved  and as supported as you crying with her.  It goes so far to make one feel less alone.  Your tears validate hers. 

Otherwise keep up what you are doing. Grief is like childbirth. There is no way around it. Only through. And  no one can stop it it helps to have a hand to squeeze while you scream.



Anyone who had grieved

God sends His Spirit on those in need of such, and the Spirit isn't called the Comforter for nothing!  Y'all are going to come out on the other side as better and stronger people for this.  I write as one who's been there.  Hugs, thoughts, and, above all, prayers.