caircair wrote:

For me, it's not just about "real" tears, it's about the sounds. I want to hear the choked voice, the sobbing, the gasps as he (since I'm strictly into male crying) tries to keep control.

I adore the choked voice and gasps/sighs... auditory proof that there is a lack of control... to have it is definitely better than just the visual alone!!  But I'm not a rapid sobbing fan.  Too many actors seem to go from basically nothing to burying their head and sobbing.  Easier to fake, I think.
 

tearhunter wrote:

Yes I can be picky... I also like to see tears flowing in the eyes, rolling unchecked down an attractive female face when the camera is in pin sharp focus and the lighting is good.

​Anything less and yes the clip drops gradually down the rankings.

​Are you able to re-watch clips that tick all the boxes? New clips are great and I spend too much time looking for new ones but if I can't find a new good one I tend to drop back to an old favourite to relive the frustration.

Yes I'm very much like this. Another question have you ever recorded crying scenes off the TV for instance and then played them back in slow motion - or even backwards like I did when I was younger

Once upon a time I was very picky. Only wanted quiet, flowing female tears. However, the more time I spent around you all, the less picky I've become. I like it better this way, because now I enjoy the sobbing and the lip curls as well.

I can relate to everything you say but I guess these are normal variations of the paraphiliac disposition. I went through more intense periods where I was browsing to find that particular, perfect ''scene'' or discovery and came out empty handed. At other times I found out new stufff on the ''prowl'' and looked for more.
Generally, i look for that crying face that has the perfect timing in terms of esthetics, emotion, back story, the level of detail. I feel very frustrated when i don't see the actual tears or the actor goes through the build up and then the actual crying is not properly disclosed being filmed from afar or concealed. After some time i was particular about the after cry part, meaning i would enjoy to see the face covered or not the tears being on display right away the crying is taking place but to see the face afterwards with traces of tears or a minutae disclosure to signs of actual crying, face flushed, red rims of the eyes, trembling voice, moisty eyes. 
At times i enjoy the subdued type of crying or the barely contained one when the face is sort of ''holding'' the turmoil and there's this aura of barely letting go...if the scene is not showing it all i 'd like for some time to continue it in my imagination or try different scenarios to be able to reconstruct the missing parts. I enjoy doing this some time but then i'd like to see the whole thing with that actor, i like having seen all possibilities exhausted at some point...And i get frustrated when it doesn't happen but all this doesn't compare to the general frustration i get when i hear about men not crying or not being able or willing to show that part of their emotional life. I equally feel anger at the fact that i once met some guy who teased me with it, with his crying and he fell short of being actually honest and i realized i shouldn't talk about it at all because it can be misunderstood.
It sort of became an ''entity '' inside that i can only feed sometimes, in some ways and generally not to the full extent ...
 

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