Yeah, I definitely have to change fantasies and videos/sound effects. Especially with videos or sound effects, since they're exactly the same each time. In fact, if I watch the same video a few days in a row, it starts to seem a bit disconcerting and sometimes a little annoying because I can predict the exact pattern of the sobbing, the exact shape of the mouth, etc. It loses excitement and spontaneity, At least for a couple of weeks.

I also need regular changes of videos much like Carrotcake

I don't have any crying fantasies apart from the crying dream I told you all about a month ago, and having a staring contest with a girl that features lots of tears

I have a mental "bank" of old experiences that I flip through. I also write down a lot of my experiences and then I'll read through them when I want a new visual. I guess I'm pretty lucky that I don't have to actively fantasize all that often, since I've had a fair number of real life crying experiences. What I do pretty often is just get on the internet and look for phrases or snippets I like, then I'll copy them down to enjoy later. But yeah, to answer the question, I like a wide variety of material.

Haha, I think you might need more than a week. It doesn't happen THAT often!

Yeah, definitely - the same video can do it for me a number of times, but then it loses its thrill.

I tend to have the same elements of a fantasy, but altered slightly and in different settings.

My favourite location for a fantasy is in the bedroom (I live in student accommodation during term time, so realistically for a fantasy involving my boyfriend, it would have to take place either in public, which I don't like as only I want to share the intimacy of the moment, or in one of our rooms).

Basic rubric: he seems a little out of character, I ask what's wrong, he brushes it off but his eyes fill with tears, he tries to hold back, makes a joke out of it and then immediately crumbles, followed by the hugging, the sobbing in my arms, perhaps a choked out 'I'm sorry', to which I reassure him it's fine. Then I have two endings, although both could happen consecutively, I suppose: tissues are offered, and he's drying his eyes, and is all embarrassed OR he cries himself to sleep in my arms and his breathing is all snuffly as he sleeps.

I change a few things: the reasons for crying, the type of crying (quiet and restrained, huge sobs, etc.), my position as the comforter (standing, sitting beside him, lying next to him). I never have a lot of dialogue, other than 'Shhh' (not as in 'stop it', more of a soothing noise), 'it's okay', 'don't worry'. I never want to go too much into the reasons for their tears, because that feels to me like focusing on the pain rather than the emotional release.

Of course, if I'm fantasising about characters from TV shows that I like or famous people, which I do a lot, then there's a lot more variety and the settings and reasons can change a lot more.