@Tearhunter No prob about my question -- I agree it's too complicated for a survey.  I have a friend who didn't open up and my two guesses as to what happened are either that I turned him off the idea of opening up because I brought up the subject too often, or that he needed even *more* encouragement before he felt comfortable opening up.  Or (as a third guess) that he'll never open up to anyone, period, so it's nothing personal.  I don't really know, but I sort of fear the first option and this makes me more hesitant when it comes to initiating conversations about personal subjects with other guys.  And perhaps I need not be.  Regardless, I think it's so incredibly individual that a survey could never really tell me what I needed to know -- it's like a lot of things in life -- it may just come down to timing and chemistry more than anything else, and these factors are only somewhat controllable and are different for every situation.  I do feel that I pick up on timing and chemistry cues in general, so I probably have pretty good judgment.  I'm sure I didn't do anything too inappropriate.  Given that, I suppose I should just make more friends and find those with whom I have the best chemistry (much like dating, haha).   As for timing and other sorts of luck, it's in the hands of the universe!

As far as the Diary goes --

9) PMT?  We call it "PMS" here (pre-menstrual syndrome).  I wouldn't even recognize what PMT was referring to.  Unless that was a typo.  Do I think it's inappropriate/sexist?  Naw, go for it.  Although, to cover other things (such as pregnancy, postpartum depression, etc.) why not call it "hormonal reasons" or something more generalized like that?  Just an idea.  Or do them under different categories... PMS, pregnancy, hormonal changes (or imbalance/disruption) not due to pregnancy (other medical reason), etc.  Unless you're only interested in PMS.

18) typo:  Third option down should be "too" not "to"

woundedpuppy wrote:

@Tearhunter No prob about my question -- I agree it's too complicated for a survey.  I have a friend who didn't open up and my two guesses as to what happened are either that I turned him off the idea of opening up because I brought up the subject too often, or that he needed even *more* encouragement before he felt comfortable opening up.  Or (as a third guess) that he'll never open up to anyone, period, so it's nothing personal.  I don't really know, but I sort of fear the first option and this makes me more hesitant when it comes to initiating conversations about personal subjects with other guys.  And perhaps I need not be.  Regardless, I think it's so incredibly individual that a survey could never really tell me what I needed to know -- it's like a lot of things in life -- it may just come down to timing and chemistry more than anything else, and these factors are only somewhat controllable and are different for every situation.  I do feel that I pick up on timing and chemistry cues in general, so I probably have pretty good judgment.  I'm sure I didn't do anything too inappropriate.  Given that, I suppose I should just make more friends and find those with whom I have the best chemistry (much like dating, haha).   As for timing and other sorts of luck, it's in the hands of the universe!

As far as the Diary goes --

9) PMT?  We call it "PMS" here (pre-menstrual syndrome).  I wouldn't even recognize what PMT was referring to.  Unless that was a typo.  Do I think it's inappropriate/sexist?  Naw, go for it.  Although, to cover other things (such as pregnancy, postpartum depression, etc.) why not call it "hormonal reasons" or something more generalized like that?  Just an idea.  Or do them under different categories... PMS, pregnancy, hormonal changes (or imbalance/disruption) not due to pregnancy (other medical reason), etc.  Unless you're only interested in PMS.

18) typo:  Third option down should be "too" not "to"

I agree, although your proposed question is very interesting, it's also vary focused and personal which makes it difficult to ask in a more generalised questionnaire. I know you've stepped back from trying to 'engineer' these situations to elicit male crying which is a good thing I think. In my experience, the best chance you will have to get both males and females to open up and cry is to let them drive the situation. If in doubt listen rather than butting in and saying something - if they want to talk they will eventully fill any gap in conversation, and usually the more they talk the more they open up and the more likely they will become emotional. A generalisation I know but it tends to hold true for the majority.

The world is a complicated place, it's pre-menstrual tension here - if I use it I guess I would need to avoid the acronym as if I typed it as 'pre-menstrual tension' most would understand what it was eluding too. I like the idea of expanding this to include pregnancy, postpartum depression (or baby blues as we call it) as I've had first hand experience of how they effect a woman's emotional state - hormonal reasons is perhaps to general and the use of the word 'hormonal' tends to not go down well with women over here! I'll try and work somthing in.

Another typo, you're just too (did I get that right) good  :o)

I plan to leave this open for comments until the weekend - then I'll probably remove the questionnaire entries from this thread - I don't want google indexing the questions and them finding there way into search engine results - I only want the questionnaire achieving that status.

So, please if you have any further comments let me know... thanks for your help so far.   :o)

am i too late to answer the questionaire?

Thanks for all your comments and help on this guys, I've removed the questionnaire from the forum to prevent Google indexing the words and sending people to this site rather than the real questionnaire - while we could do with the publicity I don't think pointing them in the direction of a crying fetish forum is the right thing to do !!

Hopefully sometime soon I'll get the site up and running...