Oh, I love a good, strong, stable comforter. Especially when it's me doing the strong, stable comforting!

I definitely agree that some of the best situations and observations have to do with "almost-crying," where the upset man is just very emotional and on the verge of tears. This definitely happens more often than full-out crying or sobbing, but the emotional intensity is still quite high. I'd almost say that the intensity is the same, but the person is just not comfortable enough or ready to actually release the emotion in the form of tears. But just the fact that he's sharing the emotion with me is a huge sign of trust, which is what really gets me. Of course, if he actually loses control and cries, that's even more intimate.

That would be absolutely incredible. WOW. You may have inspired me to write a little crying fiction...

Oh, and to add to what I just posted, I also see some genuine FEAR in his eyes at the exact same time! We are out in public and he knows how close to the edge he is, and he knows it's kind of scary for both of us, as my role is to avoid him being seen crying. So there's something at stake for both of us if he cries and it's like this huge shared fear that he might "blow" any minute (like a volcano or something)... ahhhh hot!!!!  So his fear of crying is another turn-on and especially us sharing that fear together.  That's what really pushes my buttons... resistance, like, oh no, don't cry, donnn't cry, please don't cry (rather than, please feel free to cry (or whatever)).  Ironic that in real life, it probably rarely happens like this for a crying fetishist (who is always thinking to themselves, please cry, please cry, I wanna see it!)

Anyone got any real life stories of when they *didn't* want someone to cry, yet it was really hot to be feeling that way??  Just curious.  In the right context, wow, I think I might just explode...

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YESSSSS!!!!    That section of the forum needs more activity (WoundedPuppy says, selfishly) 

It's weird, but in the fantasy, I keep repeating this look in my head.  Not sure if I can describe it, but we're sitting together, a little distance apart, and I'm picturing him looking at me silently while reflecting on himself and the pathetic state he's in... it's like, he's completely aware of how pathetic he looks in his near-crying state, so his look to me is almost an eye roll (without actually rolling the eyes) that says, look at me, I'm such a mess, I can't believe it, but here it is, I can't control it... how pathetic am I, ugh, this is *ridiculous*, isn't it?...

Somehow, I appreciate the self-realization and utter defeat that comes with this look.  It's not acceptance of his state (he hates it), nor is it denial of his state.  While I often love denial, for whatever reason I'm loving the lack of denial this time around... he's open... and it's all communicated with a quick look in his eyes... like, I'm sooo pathetic right now, aren't I? Yep, that's me, ohhh boy, how pathetic is this? But at least you're here with me...

I luvvv overly emotional boys as long as they're *aware* of how "pathetic" their ability to contain their emotions is.  If they're easy criers who are unaware of it or are almost proud to be that way, I guess it takes a bit of the fun out of it for me... their crying holds less weight somehow.  I seem to like that ever-so-slight sense of embarrassment that comes with admitting that one is overly-emotional... but other than that, over-emotional is a big plus, as it allows for more obs.

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Ah, I'm happy for you, Woundedpuppy! Sounds gorgeous!

As for your comment, 'I seem to like that ever-so-slight sense of embarrassment that comes with admitting that one is overly-emotional' - yes! I LOVE a hint of embarrassment in a crier, it's so adorable! Almost as though I need them to understand that crying is a little embarrassing, or I lose respect for them, you know? Proud criers aren't attractive at all. And that embarrassment goes hand in hand with struggling against crying, which is SO hot. The struggle is part of the beauty of the eventual breakdown.

Ooh, yes, the fear of the breakdown. That's hot, especially if the guy were to throw me a glance, almost begging me to help him control his emotions and hold it together. And that somehow, with just one glance back, I could convey a sense of resolve that told him that he WOULD be able to hold it together just long enough, of course, for us to make it to the end of the day, after which he could completely dissolve in my arms.

The only experience I've ever had that was even similar to this didn't even directly involve me, so it wasn't anywhere near as exciting or hot as we're discussing here. Once, when I was still in school (before college -- don't remember if it was junior high or high school), a boy was discussing something intensely with a teacher, and he looked really close to a breakdown. He was fidgeting like crazy, not making eye contact with the teacher, and pressing his lips together. As he glanced around the room (everywhere but the teacher's face), I could see that fear in his eyes, that dread, knowing that he shouldn't (COULDN'T) lose control of his emotions. I was hoping for his sake that he wouldn't cry because I could see how desperately he was fighting it, but I also couldn't look away because I was tantalized by that fear and desperation in his eyes.

In the end, I think he walked out still on the verge of tears. I'd be willing to bet he cried after leaving the room, but I don't know for sure (maddeningly enough). I saw him later in the day, and I admit that I looked for any remnants of emotion in his expression, but he looked much calmer/neutral.

I think if I were to be actually involved in a situation like that, where I was the source of comfort, the anticipated outlet for the emotion... wow, that would be incredible!