I'm sorry. I know that it stung when she said that, but believe me, she's not really mad at you. She's angry and upset with the whole situation, and sometimes that causes that to come out in unintended ways. I'm positive she knows how much you care. She probably feels conflicted because she's really upset, but she also might welcome the distraction of going to work, and she probably felt embarrassed about breaking down in front of her colleagues and having to leave. You're not the bad guy, and she knows that...she's just overwhelmed. I snapped a million things that I did NOT mean at my boyfriend while my mother was sick. I didn't mean any of them. I was just overly emotional and going crazy inside.

Just keep looking forward, and don't worry that everything will suddenly get a million times worse when her mother does pass away. Your girlfriend has already started to grieve, and the death won't come as a shock. She'll slowly begin to feel better, and one day not too far in the future, she'll find herself realizing that she's made it through the hardest parts.

Tears, you can also find ways to get relief yourself and some sort of conscous detachment. When i was having problems a few years ago i started reading esoteric literature and i picked up a course in astrology and it helped me a lot in time to cope with distressing situations. I don't know what you feel about reading or if you're into spiritual stuff but if you're interested i can recomend you some titles..Meditation also helps..

Her mum is rapidly declining in health....they dont think she has much more than a few weeks to live...the cancer has spread at an alarming rate. My gf was starting to come to terms with her mother's impending death, until she recieved the news that her mum was deterating badly...My gf has moved in with me permanently that happened 2 weeks ago, which was helping take her mind off of things, but sadly she has just started to slip backwards again.. Obviously with her dad dying her past, and her mum very close to passing away, she is worried that she will have no one there for her. I re-assure her that im there for her. Many times im sitting with her, and she will suddenly start to cry...tears slowly start roll down her cheeks. At which point, i hold her in my arms, and kiss her on the head, and just let her cry, as she obviously needs to cry. The other night, we sat on the sofa just talking, we had some laughs and tears, but eventually she just reached the stage, where she just sobbed uncontrollbly..its tearing me apart seeing her like this, and just writing this, is bringing a lump to my throat..

thank you


apolgies if this bores people, this is the only place i can properly write down my feelings..

I'm so sorry that her mom isn't doing well. As I've said all along, you're doing everything right. Hang in there, and post here as much as you need to.