Amans lacrimae wrote:

Wow, quite a pond in the pillow, two questions:

How did you feel crying, considering you rarely cry?

Are you a born male or female (I still think girls produce more tears than boys, of course, only if you feel comfortable)?

I was frustrated that I needed to cry because I do think I’m a little bit overreacting but it feels good when I do get to cry because it’s a kind of release. Like there is something satisfying in the moment when you give up on trying not to cry and let yourself.

I’m AFAB so maybe that is why the big amount, I’m not usually a wet crier tho so I was surprised with the stain.

Oh yes, I’m absolutely a person who cries more if I’m comforted. I guess a lot of people are. In the state i was in then I could’ve sobbed like crazy if I had a physical shoulder to cry on. Maybe I can see next time I get emotional with someone else if I end up crying another river  and I’ll have solved the mystery of my tears

Yes, once, not that long ago actually =)
I cried while sitting in the bed next to my friend laying on the bed and she reached out to wipe my tears with her finger. She repeated it a couple times when there were fresh tears on my face. I think she doesn’t usually do that to people either but tried cause she could tell I wanted her to. Regardless the intention of consoling me the way I wanted felt great.
It didn’t end up making my face free of tears though because I went to cry in her chest right after and wet my cheeks again.

It was kind of the first time I was properly comforted too, so it really was nice, and really tear inducing for me haha

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Amans lacrimae wrote:

I wonder, how did she know you wanted to have your tears wiped? So, it seems you clearly like having your tears taken care of, how do you know she doesn’t do it to other friends? Do you think she would wipe your tears again if you cried in front of her? Was anyone else present when she did it?

The way she did it was a bit hesitant, like she doesn’t really know how to if that makes sense. I think she figured because the way I wiped my own tears at first was in a self soothing way more than getting them out of my face. I was letting them go unchecked otherwise, I had tissues but was only using them on my nose and never the actual tears. She kind of followed my lead the whole time. Didn’t hug me until I hugged her, but when I’d done it once she kept putting my head into her chest when I’d cry harder. Also I calmed down when she wiped my tears so she got approval what she was doing was working. She just wanted to be as comforting as possible but wasn’t sure what that entails, probably.

I’m not sure how often she ends up in a comforting situation. She has mostly male friends and a lot of men don’t cry much or don’t want to in front of others. So she might not get the opportunity to take care of her friends tears even if she’d like to. But I don’t think so.

Nobody was with us, I think I would have had a harder time crying like that with a group. It felt vulnerable enough with one person haha.

I think she would wipe my tears again if I cried in front of her, at least if I was leaning on her or seeming like I want physical comfort (Which I always do, but how would she know that) I feel it’s likely I’ll cry in front of her again eventually, because she is the person I feel has been most supportive about my feelings.
I’ve actually had quite negative reactions to crying in front of someone else so it does make me a bit nervous to do still, so her being all gentle kind of makes it easier.
Hopefully that means I’ll have my tears taken care of next time I’m feeling sad like that.