Today I had a nice observation. I was talking to a man whose wife just had a baby. I knew that his wife is pregnant, they have already two children, and I was astonished that the baby is already here, because I thought the birth termin is only in a few weeks. When I mentioned that, his chin started trembling and tears shot into his eyes. First he couldn't go on talking, then he whispered "I am sorry". After a few seconds he was able to talk again and told me that his wife had a pregnancy intoxication and had a C- Section in the 28th week. In the following minutes he told me about his fears, about the pression on his shoulders because his wife is still in hospital and he has to look for the childern. During this discussion he was on the verge of tears, some spilled over onto his cheeks and sometimes he just couldn't go on because his voice broke. Finally he took a tissue, blow his nose, whiped his eyes and cheeks. He told me that he is going to have lunch with a male budy from work and I wondered how he would do (if he would cry again with his male compagnon or not).