Inmyarms - That's a good point.  If he felt that way, that would kind of explain why he still wanted to be physically close to me but didn't want me to use that tone of voice.  Of course, I hope I didn't deligitimize his feelings, but I guess I don't know.

Reptongeek - I see.  I'm not sure if that's what he was doing exactly or not.  He was cool with talking about what happened, it was the way I was talking about it he didn't like.  Of course, he's refused to talk about problems before, too.  Usually the ones that are the most important to talk about.  So, that's a thing.

I understand, I have to be careful with my boyfriend because most of the time verbal comforting/soothing will just irritate him. It's hard for me to hold back at times, but I've gotten better at just holding him and running my hands through his hair the way he likes. On the other hand, I've had to teach him the best way to comfort me, which is to tell me that it's okay to be sad, cry, etc. Funny how people are so particular about what they need when they're upset.