1 - tearhunter
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Crying Diary
I had a thought the other day given that we have started a new year just a few weeks ago. The average crying frequency reported for males and females varies widely. I've read some statistical studies which report women crying 64 times a years and males 17 times a year. They don't record the intensity of these crying events so they could be wet eyes with no flowing tears but it does appear a lot. I mean 64 times a year is over 5 times a month (more than once a week). A 17 times a years is almost 1.5 times a month on average.
So, I thought I'd start a challenge to you all - lets use this thread to record every crying event you experience in 2014. Yes it will be a challenge to keep it going and to remember a log every event but worth a try I thought.
I also thought it worthwhile (if you want too that is) record the crying events you witness of your respective partners - I realise you might not see every single crying event but again it's worth a try.
A thought recording a few specific details to help collate some stats, for me the reason might be the most personal so ok if for certain events you wish to leave this blank but the points I'd like to you all to record are:
Date: day/month/year (please fill this in with month as Jan, Feb etc you guys in the US have a different order from us over here)
Time: hh:mm (24 hour clock to avoid confusion)
Duration: (in minutes - roughly how long did you cry for)
Reason for Crying: (short description with main feelings if ok with sharing)
Location: Home / Work / Car etc
Crying Intensity: Lump in Throat / Choked Up / Close to Tears / Tears in Eyes / Tears Down Face / Sobbing
Reation to Tears: No Tears Present / Bury Face in Hands to Hide Tears / Directly Wipe Eyes so Tears where not Visible / Wiped Tear Drops from Face / Let Tears Roll Down Face Unchecked
Lip curled?: No/Mild Only/Yes/Prominently
People Present: Alone / Husband / Wife / Girlfriend / Boyfriend etc (list all significant people)
Should make for an interesting record.... if you can add any crying events so far this years.... guess I should start.
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Re: Crying Diary
Date: 11th Jan 2014
Time: 15:30
Duration: 5 minutes
Reason for Crying: Lost in my own sad thoughts standing at a graveside (sadness)
Location: Cemetery
Crying Intensity:Tears down face
Reaction to Tears: Let tears roll down face unchecked
People Presents: Alone
Lip Curl: No
Last edited by tearhunter (February 1, 2014 11:31 am)
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Thread Starter- tearhunter
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Re: Crying Diary
ENTRY FOR MY WIFE
Date: 26th Jan 2014
Time: 19:00
Duration: 2 minutes
Reason for Crying: Touched receiving sentimental gift.
Location: Hotel Room
Crying Intensity: Tears in Eyes
Reaction to Tears: No Tears Present
People Present: Husband
Lip Curl: No
Last edited by tearhunter (February 1, 2014 11:32 am)
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Thread Starter- inmyarms
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Re: Crying Diary
Very interesting idea
Tears are the last gift of true love.
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Re: Crying Diary
This is good. One suggestion. I think that "lump in throat" and "choked up" are a really low threshold for defining crying. If I include those, I'm afraid I may actually reach 64 times this year. Anyway, here are January's episodes.
Date: 10th Jan 2014
Time: 23:00
Duration: less than 1 minute
Reason for Crying: Finished a really amazing book. Looked up the author on Wikipidia. Found out he had recently died of rare cancer. Ugh.
Location: Home
Crying Intensity: Tears down cheeks
Reaction to Tears: Wiped tears from face. And keyboard.
People Present: Wife
Date: 21st Jan 2014
Time: 02:00
Duration: 3 minutes
Reason for Crying: Relief, exhaustion. Elevator at the hospital where I work got stuck, and it took an hour and a half for it to be fixed. Kept my cool while in the elevator, started to cry once I was out of the building.
Location: Walking to my car
Crying Intensity: Tears down cheeks
Reaction to Tears: Let them fall unchecked. Just too tired to care.
People Present: Alone.
ENTRY FOR MYSELF AND MY WIFE
Date: 1st Jan 2014
Time: 00:00
Duration: Me: less than one minute. Wife: 2 minutes
Reason for Crying: None really. First new year's as a married couple made us sentimental?
Location: Home
Crying Intensity: I had tears in my eyes. My wife shed a couple.
Reaction to Tears: I blinked mine away. She let hers fall unchecked and they ended up on my shoulder when she hugged me.
People Present: Father, mother, father-in-law, mother-in-law, quite a few friends.
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Re: Crying Diary
i dont remember all but the most recent is yesterday
date: january 29
time: 8:30 pm
duration: half an hour followed by sporatid shorter periods
reason for crying: got a notice in the mail bearing bad news, the resolutiion of which will require an appeals process , attorneys all kinds of joyful stuff like that. this is a major blow that came on top of a royal string of bad luckall in a short space and i just completely lost it
location: home
crying intensity: very intense. started with hyperventilating, deteriorated into an intense sobbing session. after that died down i had several bouts of crying that were less hysterical and more "leaky"
Reaction to tears: plopped myself on my bed
people present: husband
Date: 30th Jan 2014
Time: 7:45 in the morning
Duration: about thirty seconds
Reason for Crying: story on the news.right year old boy died in a fire after reading six relatives. Died when he went back in for his grandfather. He will be getting a firefighters final with full honors, his family will be presented with a helmet inscribed with his name.
Location: Home
Crying Intensity: Tears down cheeks, dripping of noise
Reaction to Tears: didn't react.just let them happen
People Present: just me
Last edited by inmyarms (January 31, 2014 12:11 am)
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Re: Crying Diary
I have to agree with truffle.lump in the throat is not crying.not every experience if string emotion counts as a level of crying.I think for it to be crying there has to be the presence of tears.
Tears are the last gift of true love.
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Mine's a serious report as I just went to a funeral this month for my grandad and felt like writing about it I don't feel like doing a obs so I felt like doing it here in the diary, it's more of a diary entry then a obs mine is. Great idea though! 
Date: 14/Jan/2014
Time: 2pmish after the funeral
Duration: I don't know in minutes, I just started crying at the end of the funeral
Reason for Crying: My grandads funeral the last of my grandparents to passaway on my dads side.
Location: At church
Crying Intensity: No lump in throat, just crying was intense though my face was all wet and I felt horrible while I was crying, then I felt better after I cried.
Reation to Tears: Hid face in sisters shoulder for a while till my mum came and hugged me, it was pretty intense until it was over.
People Present: Family.
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I'm sorry for you loss rain dance.but I'm glad that you're sister and mother were there for you and each other.
Tears are the last gift of true love.
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Thankyou, it was hard coming back home as my grandad lived 4 hrs away, but I'm more use to it now. I'm doing a lot better now.