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Well, this is not really a crying observation but something close to that. I was reading a full article about Robin Williams' suicide on the bus this morning. As I read I had the mildest lump in my throat. Then tears started sprining to my eyes but I blinked them back. This came as quite a surprise to me. When I was off the bus and on the road I was thinking about Robin Williams. The lump came back, harder this time, and I had to fight the tears again. It's possible that I might have "let it" out if it wasn't for the fact that I was outside. It just feels so impossible (even now) that someone this full of life, and such an integral part of my childhood would come to such a grim end. I never thought I'd feel this way about the death of some celebrity. :'(
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I thought I was holding up pretty well until I read Norm McDonald's Twitter thread about him. The whole thing is incredibly sad and I've cried a bit over it.
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I also took his death very personally considering I don't follow the celeb world much. But robin wasn't just a celebrity. He was the world's biggest kid. For a child of the nineties like me he had seemed like the ideal grown up. And he spent his life making people smile. That he should die if depression was a real gut punch. I cried too and the only other time I cried for a celebrity death was watching an interview with Terri Irwin shortly after Steve Irwin died.
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TorNorth wrote:
Well, this is not really a crying observation but something close to that. I was reading a full article about Robin Williams' suicide on the bus this morning. As I read I had the mildest lump in my throat. Then tears started sprining to my eyes but I blinked them back. This came as quite a surprise to me. When I was off the bus and on the road I was thinking about Robin Williams. The lump came back, harder this time, and I had to fight the tears again. It's possible that I might have "let it" out if it wasn't for the fact that I was outside. It just feels so impossible (even now) that someone this full of life, and such an integral part of my childhood would come to such a grim end. I never thought I'd feel this way about the death of some celebrity. :'(
I was trying to remember if you have ever posted a self crying observation TorNorth?
I was also gutted to read of Robin Williams passing - very sad indeed, a troubled genius - however I didn't experience an emotion reaction. Feeling a bit emotionally detached at the moment - probably due to workload!
TorNorth - if someone had looked at you would your tears have been visible in your eyes - i.e. would you have looked like you were about to cry? You say you might have let it out if you were not outside - was it a fear of being seen crying by someone else or own boundaries that stopped you from shedding tears?
And when did you last cry anyway - details please did you allow tears to fall?
In your adult life has anyone else seen you in tears?
You know me, always interest in this social interaction stuff regarding crying
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tearhunter wrote:
TorNorth wrote:
Well, this is not really a crying observation but something close to that. I was reading a full article about Robin Williams' suicide on the bus this morning. As I read I had the mildest lump in my throat. Then tears started sprining to my eyes but I blinked them back. This came as quite a surprise to me. When I was off the bus and on the road I was thinking about Robin Williams. The lump came back, harder this time, and I had to fight the tears again. It's possible that I might have "let it" out if it wasn't for the fact that I was outside. It just feels so impossible (even now) that someone this full of life, and such an integral part of my childhood would come to such a grim end. I never thought I'd feel this way about the death of some celebrity. :'(
I was trying to remember if you have ever posted a self crying observation TorNorth?
I was also gutted to read of Robin Williams passing - very sad indeed, a troubled genius - however I didn't experience an emotion reaction. Feeling a bit emotionally detached at the moment - probably due to workload!
TorNorth - if someone had looked at you would your tears have been visible in your eyes - i.e. would you have looked like you were about to cry? You say you might have let it out if you were not outside - was it a fear of being seen crying by someone else or own boundaries that stopped you from shedding tears?
And when did you last cry anyway - details please did you allow tears to fall?
In your adult life has anyone else seen you in tears?
You know me, always interest in this social interaction stuff regarding crying
I mentioned that one time that I've cried when I was much much younger. I never posted any recent obs.
While on the bus I doubt if anyone could tell that I was about to cry. My feelings were mostly inside and its effects were very subtle. While on the road someone might have noticed the tears in my eyes, if they looked closely. I didn't give any obvious signs of crying - except blowing my nose at one point which could easily be mistaken for a cold.
It was less a fear of being seen as it was a natural reflex to not show emotion in public, or show emotion at all. I've learned to hide my emotions very deep to the point where I can't really bring them out in most cases. I can come across as a cold asshole to strangers. On hindsight, I doubt if I'd have a proper cry if I was alone.
To my memory the last time I had a good cry was when I was 13 (I'm 29 now). I did let the tears fall. I was in the shower at the time, sobbing but not really making much sound. I was actually missing my grandparents who had come to visit and who had departed to their own country that morning.
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A 'good cry' to me means multiple tears falling which I think by your description was the case when you cried aged 13. As far as you can remember have you not shed a single emotional tear since this age?
It would be very interesting indeed to hear you describe the feelings and sensations if you had allowed yourself to actually cry. I imagine if tears had left your eyes you would have wiped them away immediately - I wonder how you would have felt if you'd let them run down your face?
If your eyes water to the point of tears (not emotional tears) - I'm assuming your eyes have physically shed a tear in 16 years do you allow the tear to fall or wipe it away? would it be different if you where completely on your own?
If you every did cry - would you do so in front of someone close? Your wife for example?
Told you I'm the inqusitive type!
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I have become teary-eyed at certain occasions, but I don't think I've shed tears since then. I don't think I'd be in a haste to wipe tears. If I do lose control and cry in public, I wouldn't bother to hide it since they won't be fooled. I tend to let tears fall unchecked (those unemotional ones). To be honest I actually quite enjoy the sensation of tears rolling down my cheeks. I would probably leave off wiping them even more if I am on my own.
I might cry in front of my wife. You know, there were moments when I became emotional while talking to my wife in the dark. I didn't cry at those moments, but she seemed to think I was crying. She would actually start wiping my eyes (which were totally dry). This didn't feel as awkward as I thought it would feel.
I am also quite sure that I am a lip curler. I match all of my lip curling "indications". Also, both my mother and my sister are lip curlers.