I personally, told my partners and my friends that i like men crying. My pals understand it as a fascination not necessarily sexually related since i don't come off watching guys crying. I just feel an upsurge of energy or a drop/ fly fluttering  in the stomach area when i saw crying scenes. It's a bit addictive but more powerfull is the feeling of awe and  esthetic pleasure when there's a  beautiful , intense, crying scene on display in a movie, mostly if it's acted out by someone who doesn't seem an actual emotional guy for some reason.

Guys i told about this were slightly amused and weirded up but kept crying to themselves even if on that ocasion they told me when they cried last time or what makes them cry. It only amounts to a discussion and that's why i don't see it dangerous after all... The only real fear i have is that as long as a guy finds out about this he might try to manipulate me or subjugate me through his tears. This is the reason i don't want to talk extensively about it as being a fetish to a guy who might indulge my fetish. Mostly i don't even think i might indulge it with a real person, i'm happy in my cinematic crying world where there's this momentum where you can actually watch ''a character'' living a dramatic story and crying and where you are the observer.

In real life i rarely have the ocasion to watch closely a man crying, it's even more rare the opportunity to comfort him so i didn't experience it. I don't want to infatilize a man or feminize him , i just don't like the pressure men put on themselves to supress their emtions and mostly those that make them cry. It's this shame and repression i'm attracted to and i want them to release it and show vulnerability full spectrum  as something healthy and normal..

I'm bothered by the fact that i hunt for crying scenes or for such moments in oder to get my dose, i think i try to overcome a lack of emotional intensity in my real life by doing so, yet that emotional intensity that i crave is beyond my reach.

Last edited by psychic_girl (January 14, 2015 12:31 pm)

It seems like for a lot of us, the thrill is in seeing less vulnerable people (on the outside, anyway) break down.

As for weirdness... you'd be surprised. I was always a quirky kid, very theatrical and dramatic (I've acted since the age of ten), and into ghosts/cemeteries/horror/the supernatural. I had friends in grade school who accepted me, though I moved in middle school and it was hard; I was bullied for being different. High school got better as I found more of my own kind. These days, in my 20's, I still have a bit of a gothy style and I'm a little nerdy, writing fanfic and trying to make it as a performer. But I work a normal job and all in all, I'm not a person on the fringes of society. I see myself as normal but quirky, I suppose. Which is fine with me!

My sex life is decent. I enjoy plain old sex, too, but more and more lately I find myself craving fetish fulfillment. Some degree of privacy within a relationship is healthy, I think. For example, I know that my guy watches porn now and then, and I'm okay with that. He knows that I write hurt/comfort and dirty fanfic, and he lets me have that private space. I'm just hoping to strike a balance between having my own private space and having so many secrets that it creates distance between us. I'd love for him to cry for me, but he's an extremely logical person who I've seen cry all of twice (ask about THAT sometime!) and he's not comfortable with it.

And yes, wetting is what you think: wetting the bed/your pants. Like I said, I won't get into it much here, but I like it in a hurt/comfort context rather than a torture/BDSM one.

Thanks for letting me ramble, everyone, I actually feel better now. This is a new journey for me, but I'm sure I'll find the balance I seek! I think most people, if they really had the courage or honesty to look inside, would find that they're into "weird" stuff.

Quite possibly! But I mainly think about times that I've mistreated people I love. Nothing brings the tears like guilt...