So I've been dating a new guy for several months - someone I've been friends with for years. (My ex-BF, who I've posted about many times on here, is still a close friend of mine; things just didn't work out romantically for us.)

Anyway, this weekend, I finally told him about my fetish. I'd been hinting at it for months, saying things such as, "I really like emotional men," and, "the expression of emotion has always turned me on." But it was really bothering me that this was essentially the only thing he didn't know about me, and I want my sexual partner to know about my fetishes (and also, I was living in fear that if I told him, he'd be horrified or something, and that I was hiding something from him that might be a dealbreaker, or whatever nonsense).

I told him pretty much everything. We didn't get into every specific detail because it didn't seem necessary in the moment. But he completely understands and says he already pretty much knew. He told me he loves me and that he definitely understands that I don't enjoy his pain - he said, "You don't want to cause pain - you HELP people because of this."

So basically, I couldn't have asked for a better reaction. I'm so glad that I've been lucky enough twice in a row to be with a partner who both understands and appreciates my quirks.

BF, incidentally, is an extremely emotional guy. I've seen him cry many times in the past few months. Sometimes just eyes filling with tears, and he gets choked up probably once a week, but I've held him while he sobbed five or six times. We also have deep, emotional conversations several times a week that sometimes lead to tears, but even when they don't, the emotional intimacy/comforting/sharing private thoughts/vulnerability is amazing. And not to provide TMI, but this is definitely the best relationship I've ever been in specifically because of the correlation we foster between emotional intimacy and sex. So I've been away from this board quite a bit because I've been busy and distracted, but everything is well.

He is also great at offering comfort when I'm upset or crying. I've been more emotional lately for some reason - I think it may actually be because I trust him so fully and want to share all of my thoughts and feelings with him. When I cry, he wraps me in his arms, wipes away my tears, tells me everything will be okay, and helps me work through whatever's going on. We have a great balance - we both enjoy comforting and being comforted (even if his enjoyment is mostly non-sexual).