Posted by mistrec  June 19, 2024 3:35 pm | #1 |
Do you remember the first time you experienced that “funny feeling” in response to seeing/hearing someone cry (or hearing about it)?
I’ll go first. I was in first grade when my teacher came to class wearing a bathroom slipper on one foot and limping a little. She explained that she had dropped a bathroom scale on her foot. “It hurt so bad I almost cried,” she told us. “In fact, I did cry a little.”
I still can’t explain why this one little comment had such a profound impact on me. I’m pretty sure I’d seen my parents cry before this - probably my mom when she got into an argument with my dad, or perhaps my dad for some sentimental reason. But I don’t think I knew that grownups cried from physical pain. I didn’t have the language or understanding to process what I was feeling as sexual. I just knew that it made me feel really strange, and I was embarrassed by what I was feeling, and I wanted it to go away, but I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I’m still thinking about it 53 years later.
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Posted by Amans lacrimae June 19, 2024 4:44 pm | #2 |
Don’t remember if it was second or third grade, one of the girls I liked in elementary school cried, she looked very beautiful, her nose red, her teardrops large and clear, silently falling on her desk.
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Posted by Chris June 19, 2024 11:24 pm | #3 |
I remember how a girl was crying in kindergarten, her name was Alina, it was probably 1990, I was 6 years old. I don’t remember how I felt, but I remember her crying face and I remember that I watched, I was attracted to how it was changing. Later, in primary school, when I was 9-10 y.o. before going to bed, I fantasized about saving and comforting the female teachers I liked when they cried and these were very pleasant dreams, I felt excitement and something similar to sexual tension.
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Posted by ComfortCasanovette June 20, 2024 2:05 am | #4 |
Okay so in real life? I was 6 or 7, and it was this kid a little older than me that I was going to VBS with (idk why i find the fact that this awakening happened at a church related event so effortlessly funny.) I cant remember why he was crying, only that it made my palms hurt in this weird good way. Idk why, but my palms always hurt when i see someone crying. I don't know if thats an empathy thing or an attraction thing. Maybe its a mix.
On tv: 6 years old. Monsters and Mazes. 80s Tom Hanks: "Kate, why can't i remember"
What am I if not a woman who likes hot men who cry a lot
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Posted by mistrec June 20, 2024 10:17 am | #5 |
Chris wrote:
I remember how a girl was crying in kindergarten, her name was Alina, it was probably 1990, I was 6 years old. I don’t remember how I felt, but I remember her crying face and I remember that I watched, I was attracted to how it was changing. Later, in primary school, when I was 9-10 y.o. before going to bed, I fantasized about saving and comforting the female teachers I liked when they cried and these were very pleasant dreams, I felt excitement and something similar to sexual tension.
Were the fantasies about the teachers based on having actually witnessed any of them actually crying in front of their students?
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Posted by mistrec June 20, 2024 10:21 am | #6 |
Okay so in real life? I was 6 or 7, and it was this kid a little older than me that I was going to VBS with (idk why i find the fact that this awakening happened at a church related event so effortlessly funny.) I cant remember why he was crying, only that it made my palms hurt in this weird good way. Idk why, but my palms always hurt when i see someone crying. I don't know if thats an empathy thing or an attraction thing. Maybe its a mix.
On tv: 6 years old. Monsters and Mazes. 80s Tom Hanks: "Kate, why can't i remember"
Pain in the palms! That’s interesting. Also, I kind of get why it’s funny that your awakening happened at a church event. I wonder sometimes how many of us who have this kink had a deeply religious upbringing and whether there’s any connection.
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Posted by Chris June 20, 2024 10:50 am | #7 |
Were the fantasies about the teachers based on having actually witnessed any of them actually crying in front of their students?
no, then it was just my fantasies) the real case happened when I was in the 6th or 7th grade, 10 y.o.I think. When a rather elderly female teacher start to cry during a lesson in front of the class after a conversation with the mother of one girl, my classmate, who came from a region where there was a war at that moment. But being 10 y.o. I felt already a lot of shame in connection with my feelings about crying. At that moment I remember experiencing very difficult feelings, shame, a lot of shame, but also sympathy and willing to comfort. As a child, I had a notebook where I wrote down events that worried me, and I wrote down this case in it later..
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Posted by CGF June 21, 2024 12:06 am | #8 |
In school when were getting our vaccinations. Can't remember exactly how old I was, early teens anyway, they were giving the shots to two students at a time, me and this girl in my class, who I did not think was attractive at all, go in to get our shots at the same time, she sees the needle and just starts sobbing, she really did not like needles. She went from being just a "plane jane" to being the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen in my life up to that point. I didn't really understand why at the time, but from that point on, I had a huge crush on her. Over time I came to figure out that it was actually the crying that I found attractive.
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Posted by tearhunter June 21, 2024 9:28 am | #9 |
I have two memories but I'm not sure which one comes first - I think I would be about 6 or 7 years old.
The first memory is at school - a girl in my class fell in the playground and started crying. I clearly remember her big brown eyes swimming in tears and large tears rolling down her cheeks. I was instantly attracted to her - I ran to help her and put my arm around her to comfort her - something I'd never consider doing until that point. I feel like I instantly feel in love with her! I would say it was also the first time I noticed that girls can be very beautiful. I also remember that it had a physical reaction - which felt kinda nice!
My other memory is of an aunt of mine - she was a very glamourous woman and the older I got the more attractive I found her. Around the same time frame as above I remember she was crying about something - no idea what. She was sobbing gently and tears were running freely down her cheeks - I was mesmerised - I remember just staring at her. This may have been the first time I saw an adult cry - I didn't know adults could cry and shed tears. But I remember thinking her tears looked nice to look at.
There are many other later events that cemented my love of tears but these I think are the first.
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Posted by Oriass June 21, 2024 8:49 pm | #10 |
I always felt a little "embarrassed" when I saw someone crying (whether in real life or in a movie or cartoon), but I didn't know why.
I remember when I was 6 years old and in first grade, I teased a little girl in my class a lot (I only realized recently that I did it because I liked her) And I always made her angry, and I made her cry twice (one of them was when I pushed her, but I was a child, guys) And whenever she cried I wanted to see it up close, but I almost never could. But at that time, just seeing her cry was great. Nowadays I don't even talk to her anymore and I like someone else, so I basically forgot about that girl (we just follow each other on Instagram).
It's been a while since I thought "hey, why does seeing people crying make me horny?" And I went searching and discovered yet another dark rabbit hole on the internet.
