Crying Lovers / ARO from a friend’s self obs

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** December 27, 2024 4:30 pm

I reply in a teasing way: “Your offer sounds tempting, if I accept staying with you I can’t promise not to try to make love with you at least once a day, but only if it’s ok with you. Now, I wonder, what attaches you to this place, I mean, I have to be honest, I would like to start fresh in a place that doesn’t remind me of my ex, I would like to go to a different state and buy something or at least give a good down payment for a home we can call our own and build our memories without having to erase old ones in the same place.”

**Posted by Princess_Lucky1731** December 28, 2024 4:41 pm

He teasingly replies that if he accepts staying with me he can't guarantee not making love to me all the time. He then gives me a slight punch in the gut when he continues saying he'd like to start his life fresh in a new place that doesn't remind him of his ex, such as a differ state. Trying to sweeten the deal by saying we could buy a place (or put a downpayment) together.

"Yeah, I completely understand that you want a fresh start but I have a job here and I'm not sure how long distance would work." I began a bit taken aback. "What about your job?" I continue a bit flustered. "I'm ok with your terms if you still want to stay here a while until we figure out everything." I finish hoping he'll at least begin to think things through a little better.

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** December 28, 2024 5:11 pm

I feel her tone of voice change when I tell her I would like to move out of state, I reply, with the warmest and most reassuring voice I can: “I’ll start looking for a job online, I’m sure there must be something somewhere, if I get an offer that can give me enough to live decent and give you, at least what you have, I could take it.”

**Posted by Princess_Lucky1731** December 29, 2024 2:23 am

I guess he heard the unsettled tone of my voice as he immediately replied with the warmest tone I've ever heard from him that he's not opposed to looking for an online job and if he finds one it may just be enough to let us live comfortably without me even having to worry about working.

"I really do appreciate you thinking of me, but realistically that may take a while so why don't we try to make the best of what we have here for now. I mean you do still need to think of where you're going to live RIGHT NOW. Two weeks does go by pretty fast." I say as warmly as I can hoping he'll take me up on my offer to stay with me.

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** December 29, 2024 4:31 pm

Hearing my girlfriend insisting, I accept: “Ok sweetie, just be warned, I don’t think I’ll be able to resist your beautiful soul and sexy body, you know, I would love to have children with you, but preferably after we’re married and, I don’t think protection is safe as, you know pills are not good for your health and other methods are not that reliable.” After a short silence, I finish: “That doesn’t mean I won’t accept it if it comes, I would give our child all my love just like I do with you.”

**Posted by Princess_Lucky1731** December 30, 2024 5:01 pm

He accepts my offer but warns me that he doesn't think he'll be able to resist my body...which is fine to him as he wants to have children with me anyways... Although preferably after we're married. He then surprises me saying he doesn't think bc is safe as pills aren't safe and other methods not reliable. There is then a short silence as I try to take in everything he's said.

He then adds that he would still accept a child if it happened before we got married. That he would take care of and give all his love to our child.

After taking his thoughts into concern I thought for a min before replying "Honestly, I've always wanted children but wasn't thinking about it just yet. I mean I'm on bc right now so that I won't have any until I am in the exact right place in my life (married, financial set etc). But I'm completely open to discussing it." I said hoping he'd understand.

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**Posted by Amans lacrimae** December 31, 2024 4:18 pm

I reply: “How about we take it one step at a time, let’s move in, I’ll look for a job that provides me enough for both and we’ll continue from there. Would you like to have dinner with me?”

**Posted by Princess_Lucky1731** December 31, 2024 5:24 pm

He replies saying he thinks that we should just start by taking things one step at a time so we don't move too fast. He finally accepts my offer to move in with me. He explains that he'll start looking for a new job that pays better than his current job so that he can provide for both of us and I can quit my job. He then offers me to have dinner with him.

"I'd love to have dinner with you. We can discuss everything then." I begin smiling. "So what were you thinking? Stay here and cook, go out to eat or order in? I'm up for either." I finished patiently waiting his decision.

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** December 31, 2024 5:52 pm

I reply: “I want to take you to wherever you want, we’ll start working on personal, couple, and financial goals after this, but tonight, Iceant to have an unforgettable time, choose, Italian, French, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, you name it, I’ll invite you.”

**Posted by Princess_Lucky1731** January 1, 2025 3:42 pm

He replies that he'd like to take me out to eat whatever I'd like and we'll start working on everything else after.

"Hmmm...I was either thinking Italian or Japanese. I can't make up my mind. Want to surprise me?" I ask curiously.