Crying Lovers / Hello there

**Posted by jntjnt** February 22, 2025 4:58 am

Hello, here's a bit about myself - I'm a guy in my 20s and since my childhood (from when I was around 3 or 4), I've found female tears to be very attractive.

I've gone through phases - initially, unless there was clear, visible tear streaks, I didn't like it. Then, over time, I grew to start admiring and appreciating the beauty of eyes glistening with tears. My ideal would be seeing the tears form in the eyes, stay there for a while, and then trickle down the cheeks.

I haven't had too many real life obs since I turned about 12. Before that, I used to have obs almost everyday from girls in my class - I guess at that age, they didn't really try to hold back tears or wipe them, but perhaps hitting puberty changed that (like, they'd still cry, but usually, they'd immediately wipe their tears or bury their heads in their hands so the tears weren't visible, or just tear up and hold back their tears instead of letting them flow).

My favorite type of videos are reaction videos and crying scenes from South Asian, East Asian, and South East Asian movies and TV shows. I also like vlogs and monologues, but those are becoming rarer to find. I've found that some Chinese sites like Bilibili and Rednote have very tearful crying videos, and of course, Tik Tok is good too. YouTube is great, but finding new stuff is harder.

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** February 22, 2025 2:55 pm

Thank you for letting us know a bit about you, welcome to the community, feel free to ask anything to any of the moderators, or anyone you feel like.

Have you ever had the opportunity to wipe tears off a girl’s cheek? Have you ever had your tears wiped like in the ARO you wrote?

**Posted by jntjnt** February 22, 2025 5:27 pm

Sure. I've done both (wiped a girl's tears and have had my tears wiped) with the same girl, an ex from now nearly a decade ago.

**Posted by inmyarmsagain** February 23, 2025 12:28 am

Hi welcome

What is it about crying that appeals most to you?

**Posted by jntjnt** February 23, 2025 2:43 am

Definitely the sight of tears. If I can see the tears actually forming in the eyes and glistening before trickling smoothly down the cheeks, that's the best. If it's tears of joy, even better.

**Posted by inmyarmsagain** February 23, 2025 2:49 pm

Nice! Yes

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** February 24, 2025 3:41 pm

jntjnt wrote:
Sure. I've done both (wiped a girl's tears and have had my tears wiped) with the same girl, an ex from now nearly a decade ago.

Are you comfortable crying in front of others? I mean, is the boys don’t cry motto still in people’s minds in your country these days?

Did your ex girl ever wipe your tears in front of others (or viceversa)?

**Posted by jntjnt** February 24, 2025 4:19 pm

I don't know about how prevalent the boys don't cry motto is, it's not necessarily verbalized as much, but also, I've hardly seen men cry (there was a classmate in high school who cried a few times, and another close friend who's cried a couple of times in front of me, but not much beyond that).

For me, it'd depend on whom I'm crying in front of. There are a few people, close friends, I've at least teared up in front of (a couple of them I've cried multiple times in front of, including both the guys from above, and a couple of girls besides my ex). In fact, there was this one female friend I cried quite hard in front of and there were other people around (including her boyfriend), and she cried too (at least, her eyes were filled with tears, and she was giving me a side hug, so I didn't quite see if she shed any tears). I didn't feel that embarrassed or self-conscious in that context as it was one of those contexts where people generally do cry. But, if not for that context, I don't think I'd have been that comfortable crying in front of her (or anyone else) with that many people around. Another female friend who's seen me cry multiple times (I think she may have seen me cry more times in my adult life than anyone else) has also cried a couple of times in front of me - the first time remains perhaps my favorite obs of all time.

Speaking of my ex, she and I almost never spent time together in front of others (we had a sort of a secret relationship due to some complicating factors), so all our tears were in private. There was one time she cried in front of a couple of mutual friends (that was actually one of the best obs of her I had as her tears were very clearly glistening in her eyes and trickling down the middle of her cheeks perfectly, she's only cried like that about three times and the other times she cried, often, the tears ran down her nose or straight into my shoulders).

**Posted by Amans lacrimae** February 24, 2025 5:14 pm

Has your friend (the girl who has seen you cry very many times) wiped or kissed your tears? (Considering the times she has had the opportunity to do so) or have you taken care of her tears (even though she has a boyfriend)?

**Posted by jntjnt** February 25, 2025 5:59 am

No, neither of us has wiped each other's tears.