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Crying Discussion » I love crying when I’m embarrassed (part 1) » May 9, 2018 11:01 am

La Llorona
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Welcome to the forum!  It's refreshing to read about someone else aroused by their own tears.  I have been aroused by my tears for years although when I was a kid, I hated crying.  I got more pleasure out of seeing other people cry.  But later, when I learned to allow my own tears(I was shamed as a kid for crying...) and embrace them, I began making video diaries where I'd allow myself to go places with tears I'd never go in public.  The first person I allowed to see me really cry was my former husband when we were first together. He was pretty good about it, well he wasn't always very demonstrative but he never judged, nor got "alarmed" by my tears.  It's a turn on for me to cry in front of someone who allows me that space to just cry.  

That must have been awful, wearing boots and a winter coat in September, but it sounds like you survived that well.  I have seen instances where people cry when they're embarrassed, and people around them are very sympathetic and compassionate.  Did that happen for you?   That is so comforting and freeing, and it totally takes away the embarrassment...at least it did for me whenever I've cried when embarrassed.  

Crying Discussion » Recovering from "Numb Syndrome," as I call it » September 28, 2017 12:59 pm

La Llorona
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I've not been here in a little while, mostly cuz I went through a numb patch.  "Numb Syndrome," is something I go through sometimes when  I just can't let the tears out or get in touch with them.  Although I always know  I need to cry at certain times but the numbness stops me.  It's just that old habitual avoidance, like I used to do, when I was younger. I've been in so many relationships where my tears were judged, dating back from childhood.  But I left my husband earlier this month and that I think has helped.  He never really could see my tears toward the end...among many other things that drove us apart.

It's sad, very sad that I have spent 20 years on this man, trying to make this work...but to no avail.  I have to start my life over again.  It's heartbreaking.  But I'll get through it...

I have wept off and on.  I always have a handkerchief for that purpose, which I'm thankful to have the privacy to be able to use.  It feels good to hold the cloth to my face and as the tears soak into it...as always, it brings me to a state of ecstasy.  But too often, it ends too quickly.  I have issues with fatigue and other Diabetes-related stuff. Sometimes I'll begin to weep and do so for about three minutes, then I get tired, and want to sleep. I allow the sleep although I still feel pent up and I know there's more tears to shed.  It wouldn't bother me as much if the tension didn't lead to anxiety attacks which I just don't get the same release from lol.  Movies help.  I was watching Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince a few days ago, and had a really good cry at one scene.
SPOILER ALERT:
*Does anyone who has seen it remember Hermione running out of the room after Lavender Brown kisses Ron? It was so moving to see her pour her feelings for Ron out on Harry's shoulder. And her asking him, "How does it feel seeing Dean with Ginny?"  And Harry acknowledging his feelings for Ginny by saying, "It feels like this."  Man the floodgates just went off.

Crying Discussion » What if your partner had a crying fetish? » May 18, 2017 11:22 pm

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When I first started dating the man who would be my husband, I remember crying to him and him encouraging me.  He once actually said, "I find the bearing of emotions to be very arousing."  Recently I talked to him about my crying fetish and asked him if he shared it.  He actually said, "No I can't say that I've found it sexually arousing, but it is cathartic."  Lol, well you know how some people put their "best foot forward" when starting a relationship.  Guess he picked up on my crying fetish early on.  Oh well.  Like I shared once before, we've had two separations and really are kinda closing things out.  Personally  I would love to be with someone who shared my fetish.  I'd hate for someone to "figure it out" and then shame me for it or some such, like it's a bad thing.  I love the idea of crying together with someone, then  making love afterwards.  One of my strongest fantasies.  

Crying Discussion » do you tear up? » May 18, 2017 12:48 am

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I feel ya, meantangerine!  I'm super lefty too lol but I love stories about the humanity of those who have to go to fight wars.  I'm 50 so I grew up when the Vietnam war was still going on.  It ended when I was about 8.  My parents were total hippie folks and I love them for it.  My dad was in the Army but fortunately it was the "reserves," whatever that means.  But that made him exempt from having to go fight in the war. Thank goodness!  But I always felt bad and teared up a lot when hearing how when the Vietnam war soldiers came back to USA, they were not greeted with anything. They were shunned, as if what THEY did was wrong. They were ordered to go and fight, they didn't create the war, they did what they did because that's all they knew how to do at the time.  It's heartbreaking, thinking of that, but at least now people have a better awareness of supporting the TROOPS, just not the war.  War sucks, but the troops are human and should be treated as such.  
Lmao, here I went and got on a soapbox. Man I'd have made a killer flower child, if I'd been born earlier than '67.  Seriously though...it''s just basic common sense, and more people know that these days, which is excellent. 
Back to the topic tho, yeah, I always teared up at heartwarming things...even as a child.  Commercials even lmao.  Hallmark card commercials.  And yeah, movies or shows with heartwarming themes, and people with big, loving families...on go the waterworks every time.

Crying Discussion » Theraputic Crying... » May 15, 2017 8:23 pm

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No I don't think it's nuts, it sounds amazingly like singing in a way.  As a singer, I was always told not to "give too  much," at all times, like less is more.  Cuz it can harm the voice anyway and it needs to be supported with the air. I was thinking of that when I read what your therapist said about violent crying, and sometimes adverse results of that.  I likened it to exhausting the physical body too soon and therefore not getting to full release.  I usually sob when I cry but not always really loud. I'll let my body shake and the tears flow down. I'm uncomfortable with the idea of just crying outwardly with tears running down the cheeks and especially the nose running...I always feel like I want to cover my face, but I see what your therapist means.  Covering the face or wiping tears is like trying to cover up the fact that one is crying...or make oneself stop before they're ready.  I always thought well hell, everyone knows someone is crying even with their face covered, cuz they hear the sobs and see the body shaking...but I see the benefits of allowing tears AND snot to roll down with no shame, discomfort or fear. I think I might start practicing that next time I need to cry.
Another thing you mentioned is not forcing oneself to cry.  I sometimes have sat alone and sobbed, without tears, and although some may frown on  it cuz it's "fake," there are times it can bring about real tears. Depending on how I allow it to flow.  If I don't try to direct the sobs or some such, the tears will come...and it won't feel like I'm acting or something lol.  There's a writer called Sark who wrote about crying once, and suggested in one of her books certain ways to get to tears. One of them was throw oneself on the bed and pretend to cry loudly and theatrically...and within moments you actually do cry.  It has happened for me.  But I also see more benefit in just allowing and letting things go naturally.  It gets more feelings and ultimately, more TOXINS out..

Crying Discussion » do you tear up? » May 15, 2017 3:56 pm

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I tear up unexpectedly too, like at things I've seen before, videos or movies.  I always love it when that happens because I don't cry easily either, and I worked hard for years to be strong and not break down all the time. Well it comes from being bullied and shamed as a little girl because I cried at the drop of a pin then. Nowadays I'm stronger, but I don't always want to be.  Still...I don't force the tears, but when they come I am grateful for them.
meantangerine,  I love your story about warcrafts talking to each other. What really got me was this war story about WWII I think...when a German soldier on Christmas Eve suddenly stood up and started singing  Silent Night.  The American soldiers also joined in and then everyone was singing it, German and American. Just one brief moment when everyone acknowledged Christmas and the Savior being born, etc. I'm not religious but I love Christmas. It's so heartwarming and often tears will come at certain Christmas songs.  "Snoopy's Christmas," from Peanuts(I think the Royal Guardsmen were the band that sang that song) reminds me of that story about the German soldier singing Silent Night.  Anyway, those situations will always turn on the faucets for me!!!! :D

Crying Fiction » Solace - At Last (warning: long) » May 13, 2017 7:09 pm

La Llorona
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Thanks for the heads up!  I did see them, and I'll check them out.  Take care!!!

Crying Fiction » Solace - At Last (warning: long) » May 13, 2017 4:34 pm

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This is a really beautiful story!!!  I find myself hoping she opens up to him more, and maybe falls in love with him.  She's obviously hesitant because of her dacryphilia, but it's so real and so honest!  I can already picture these characters as real people.  You're a really good writer.  Can't wait for  more!  

Crying Fiction » Crying in the Shower » May 13, 2017 4:25 pm

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I've cried in the shower sometimes, even holding the washcloth to my face. I love that, warm water mixing with salt water...very freeing!  NeedHerSobs, your writing is so beautiful, very powerful. I loved that, look forward to seeing more from you!

Crying Discussion » Production of Les Miserables » May 13, 2017 6:09 am

La Llorona
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Omg that's amazing!  I love Les Mis. Did you see the movie version?  I was a wreck during that Bishop scene, and during Anne Hathaway's singing of I Dreamed a Dream.  She broke my heart.    That whole movie is one amazing crying fest.  

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