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Lately, I notice that when I cry it's usually for a few short minutes and then nothing. I'll break down and the tears will flow, and I'll either sob or moan a bit. It's deep crying, right from my gut, but as soon as it comes, it's suddenly gone before I can grab a tissue or hanky. I used to be able to cry for about twenty or thirty minutes, minimum five or ten. But lately I can't cry for longer than two or three minutes. I do feel relief when it's over, which is good but I sometimes wish I could cry longer. I don't force myself to keep crying when I'm done, I just allow whatever happens. But it is interesting that ever since my dad died last year, my crying spell durations have changed in this way.
Have any of you noticed a change in crying routines over the years or after something significant? Just curious. Feel free to share below!!!
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The other way around, when something really bad happens, I may cry stronger or longer, not the usual way.
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Right??? You would think that would be the case with me, that I'd cry longer now than I used to before my dad died, but for some reason it's just this short spurt of tears and then nothing. I guess there's something to be said about quality over quantity but wow.
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I definitely cry more now. I had a period of anxiety/depression during which I cried a lot, but now that I'm not suffering from that anymore, I still cry much more easily than I used to. My hypothesis is that I feel very comfortable crying in front of my husband and instinctively easily seek out his comfort when I'm upset, which triggers tears. But I also tear up if I'm reading something or watching a movie alone, which, while this has always happened, occurs much more readily than it used to. When I was a teenager/early 20s, I would often wish I could just sob really hard for more than 30 seconds to let out emotion, but it rarely ever happened. It's nice to be able to do that now.