Since dacrophilia is so unusual and so rarely talked about, online or anywhere else, there's no information that I know of that explains how or why this might develop.   But my gut feeling is that it's more common in men and probably more common in people who have trouble crying themselves and/or are shut off from their emotions.  I think possibly the attraction to crying in others is a "safe" way to (vicariously) release vulnerable emotion in ourselves without having to engage in it (I'm referring here to people like me who don't want to hurt others and have no sadistic impulses, but want to be able to comfort someone else and feel closer emotionally because they are crying).   For me though,  I also fantasize about crying myself, usually with a man I find attractive.   In real life, I find crying incredibly difficult, and haven't cried in front of anyone in probably over 15 years.  But I wish this weren't so, especially since a woman's tears can so often elicit tears from an empathetic man.   

Do you think the attraction to tears could be the result of early trauma?  I have trauma-based disorders brought on by having been a neglected and sometimes abused only child, where I served as a scapegoat/golden child for a narcissistic mother and a father with borderline personality disorder.  Expressing emotion, especially "soft" emotions, was never "safe" in my family and tears were dismissed and generally not allowed.  Could there be a connection?

Last edited by Lauren (January 2, 2016 1:35 am)