tearhunter wrote:

I've heard people (mainly women) say men don't shed tears when they cry. I used to work with a woman that said while she had seen her husband cry several times he never once shed an actual tear.


So, questions - for the guys on the forum to answer - and the women to answer for the men in their lives. Have you allowed (seen) tears to roll down you cheeks? Do tears always spill over easily when you cry? Basically tell me about your tears when you cry 

For me... tears come very easily when I cry - if I'm hit with an emotional moment any longer than about 30 seconds tears will be in my eyes at least and will spill over very shortly afterwards. If I'm alone, or in the right company I will allow my tears to roll down my cheeks.

 

My husband (yes, husband lol, a lot has changed in my life since you left) is definitely part of the older generations. He cries very infrequently. Months can pass between episodes. However I have seen him cry with different intensities. When he’s fully breaking down, it is truly a downpour of unchecked tears, but this only happens during severe grief or serious issues. During a more normal episode, he will be visibly obviously crying for 5-10 minutes (based on is facial expression, shaky voice, and wet eyes) but maybe one tear will escape per 2-3 minutes, if that. When they do fall, the tears are often large enough to run all the way down his cheek and reach his neck (and he has a big head and big face so that’s quite a distance!) but it’s very few escaped tears. Then he sometimes gets “misty eyed” where he’ll have tears in his eyes but none escape because he’s able to blink them away. 

In contrast, even a brief emotional surge is enough for my eyes to well up completely full, and at least one tear will escape down my cheek even if I would barely classify the episode as “crying”. I have trouble blinking tears away because that action just p

But seriously though, I literally thought you had died.

No more abrupt disappearances! I forbid it!

I agree it’s totally outdated, in a world where women are getting married later in life and have lived on their own for school/work, or are already living with their fiancé (like I am). Besides, the original reason for the crying is actually very unpleasant (fear, uncertainty about an arranged marriage, apprehension about leaving home) so I wouldn’t wish that on anyone in the 21st century.

But for tradition’s sake, I’m sure I can manage a tear or two to satisfy the gossipy uncles and aunties who will be there watching and judging ugh.

I see the problem. Need to click back, to go to the previous video. Here’s the actual link

https://videosus.marca.com/v/0_fnarsodu-la-emotiva-celebracion-de-jenni-hermoso-tras-el-titulo-de-espana-somos-campeonas-del-puto-mundo?uetv_pl=futbol&count=2

lol a little show

I have no idea. Maybe if I was 1000% sure that he was a normal trustworthy person and a respectful dac, then maybe I'd have gotten a little exhibitionist kick out of it, but at that time I knew nothing about him. So no, i just behaved as normally as I could, while also making it clear that I saw him looking. Really didn't know what else to do.