1 | Crying Discussion » Who have you told about your crying fetish in real life? » October 18, 2017 1:07 am |
- woundedpuppy
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I had a counsellor kick me out once. After I spent two sessions pouring my heart out to her, she deemed that my problems were too complicated to fit the program mandate. The service was free (paid for by my husband's employer), but was supposed to be for "short-term" counselling needs (4-6 sessions at a time, though could be repeated many times throughout the calendar year if you needed it!). I guess she felt she had to stick by the rules and I guess my problems must have seemed too complex for short-term counselling. I was shocked, to be honest.
Months later, I tried the same service again with a different counsellor and a different problem. Wary of what happened last time, I told them up front that if this problem didn't fit the mandate, I could find another one that did (I have lots of problems) -- just tell me what I'm allowed to talk about, please!! He ended up dealing with the *exact* problem I sought help for even though he admitted that "they don't want me to do this". I don't wish to divulge what the problem was, but it was nothing to do with sexual or fetish stuff.
Basically, I think some counsellors are more willing to bend the rules than others. For free services, I approach things with a bit of caution because I don't want to pay. Free services exist for some reason some group has come up with and somewhere there is probably a document that states what's supposed to be covered and not covered. I might feel more 'entitled' to talk about whatever weird subject I wanted if I was paying $200/hr for a private psychologist. But just my experience -- others may have different ones!
| Crying Discussion » (LGBT) - Newly discovering my feelings for my partner crying. » October 15, 2017 9:27 am |
- woundedpuppy
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meantangerine wrote:"When you cry, you look so beautiful, and the fact that you trust me enough to be vulnerable with me makes me feel really close to you. And feeling that close to you makes me want to be all over you and love you and have sex with you."
When you put it like that, I feel like who in the world could think that sounded like anything but a beautiful thing? Nicely done! "The fact that you trust me enough to be vulnerable" makes it sound like they are choosing not to hide their vulnerability in front of you. If they have some amount of choice in the matter, then it kind of lets them have their dignity, doesn't it. Bluesilk, I think meantangerine gives some excellent pointers in her post.
Some, but not all of my own kink would fit that description. One fantasy I have that doesn't is the one where I'm in the right place at the right time when a person I have a crush on can't control their crying. They don't trust me enough to be vulnerable in front of me.... they are just forced through circumstances beyond their control into a situation where they find themselves crying in front of me and can't escape it... and for some reason, they need my help as well... like, to get them out of an embarrassing situation or something... they know they have no choice and they look at me with those helpless eyes, you know... they are desperate! So like a superhero I swoop in and protect them and they gratefully go along with it and I cuddle them while they cry and we bond deeply through the experience, so trust does come after that and it's beautiful. It just wasn't necessarily there at the start. Just kind of a side comment, haha. But I LOVE my trust-based fantasies too... trust is very, very sexy!!!
Bluesilk, let us know how it goes with your girlfriend!
| Crying Discussion » Who have you told about your crying fetish in real life? » October 13, 2017 7:59 pm |
- woundedpuppy
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Waaaat?? I am so pissed off on your behalf! And now I question whether I should tell any therapists I am not paying for with my own money about my fetish. I think I already know the answer -- not worth the risk! But I also don't feel the need to tell one anyway, so I'll be alright. Still, I would be so upset in your shoes! What training does she have, do you know? A Master's degree?
| Crying Discussion » (LGBT) - Newly discovering my feelings for my partner crying. » October 12, 2017 9:06 pm |
- woundedpuppy
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Bluesilk wrote:
I've read that most people either enjoy this for BDSM, pouty lips, or comfort. When she cries there are sexual feelings involved but I don't participate in BDSM particularly to inflict any pain on her. I just like that she's vulnerable and sortve needs me.
Hi Bluesilk. I can relate to a lot of things you said in your post. I'm one of those you mentioned who has said I enjoy "comforting", but it's not the best description for what I mean. I have addressed this problem in previous posts by explaining that if comforting a person reduces their crying, then it kind of misses the point fetish-wise! It's more that I want reach out and touch their vulnerability, feel the intimacy of that, be gentle, etc. And yes, be needed. You identified that you like that your girlfriend is vulnerable and sort of needs you. I like being needed by the crier too. It is an arousing position to be in. And I do want the crier to be someone I know and not some random person on the internet or street, so like either a male friend or my husband or at least a celebrity who I feel as though I "know" because I'm so familiar with them. Sadly, the only time I get to experience this dynamic with my husband is when there is relationship turmoil and he is afraid of losing me (extremely rare since we have a good relationship). So I appreciate what I think is your question... how to practice and enjoy your fetish without turning it into some kind of relationship-destroying thing or playing abusive mind games, which I know you don't do (and neither do I).
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It sounds like you have taken the first steps by telling her how you feel... and she understands, which is good... but is also saying, "well, that's not good"... which is basically where I'm at with my husband too... I think it disheartens him a bit that I could enjoy someone else's (including his own) crying, but he accepts my fetish, even if he can't relate...
But the fetish isn't a part of our relationship
| Introduce Yourself » New here » October 12, 2017 4:04 am |
- woundedpuppy
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Welcome, mistrec!
| Introduce Yourself » Hello! » October 10, 2017 4:04 am |
- woundedpuppy
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Welcome, azutid! Thanks for introducing yourself (and explaining how you came up with your unique username)
| Crying Discussion » Acting School Obs (male focused) » September 30, 2017 5:42 pm |
- woundedpuppy
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Wow, that is an amazing observation... thank you, ShyActress! That definitely wasn't the context I was expecting.
Years ago I registered for a short series of classes where the teacher got us to do that Meisner exercise, but we were placed at a certain distance from our partner. I'm not sure, but I don't remember anyone getting close or touching. But maybe it's because it was more of an introductory series (open to all who were interested) and you were at a more professional level with it.
I know you haven't been in a scene yet where you got to offer comfort to a male counterpart (hope it happens for you soon!), but have you ever been involved in any scene at all where a male actor cried? If so, like others, I am curious what the person was like in-between takes, leading up to the first take, afterwards, etc.
Even if you haven't been in that situation, I of course continue to welcome any other observations you would like to share with us from classrooms, sets or stages! Fascinating stuff.
| Crying Discussion » On the film set (self obs) » September 29, 2017 8:04 pm |
- woundedpuppy
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Thanks for your first acting observation, ShyActress! I really appreciate how you explained everything and I could picture the scene in my head.
I am interested in hearing your male crying observations!!! Have you ever gotten to hug an actor while he was crying? Probably warrants a whole new thread.
| Crying Discussion » Feeling tearful today » September 29, 2017 5:43 am |
- woundedpuppy
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Beautiful pic of you crying, TorNorth. Thanks for sharing.
| Introduce Yourself » Hi there » September 26, 2017 4:14 pm |
- woundedpuppy
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Welcome, ShyActress! I love that you are a professional actor! I have dabbled in it... hmm, I guess I will call myself semi-professional because while I have been paid money to act, it has only basically been one specific kind of recurring gig (live) that involved more than just acting as well. But I've taken some workshops and love the whole acting thing, especially the vulnerability thing. I am into the vulnerability and forbiddenness of male crying, too... it's what tugs at my heartstrings!
Would LOVE to hear your actor-related observations!! It's one thing to see the final take, but it's another to hear about the whole thing leading up to that. There is plenty of the final take available on the internet, but there are less stories about the behind-the-scenes crying moments (there are definitely some... just saying, it would be great to have even more, especially told from a crying fetishist's point of view).