A beautiful very short book in which the author breifly describes his desire and his process of learning how to cry and then goes through step by step instruction for the reader on how they can release their own tears.  From setting aside a location to having something handy to absorb the tears to welcoming the sensation of the sobs, it's almost meditative in its description of the experience.

I don't have Disney plus but ive heard ed cried on camera in the series. has anyone seen it? Can you describe?

Ella wrote:

It's a weird contradiction: I enjoy seeing crying under certain circumstances (attractive male or the occasional tough female, usually in a movie) but I am just as much made EXTREMELY uncomfortable with tears if the person crying is anyone I know or am close with. I also do not like to cry myself and try not to whenever possible. And I can't even remember the last time I cried openly in front of others.

This is all to say, my husband just died unexpectedly and I am not looking forward to the days and weeks to come. I wonder if this fetish will leave me for awhile or forever.

I'm so so sorry for your loss.

The advice is there's no way around this only through.  You're going to be greiving and crying is a normal and necessary part of the process.  Suppressing it will only make it harder in the long term.

Ella wrote:

Thanks for these links

"vulnerability is alluring"

I think that sums it up pretty well, for me at least 🙂

Also this quote about whumperflies "can best be described as a fluttery tightness in one’s stomach and chest similar to the sensation of having figurative butterflies in one’s stomach as a result of an anxiety-induced adrenaline rush"

All my life I've experienced this feeling particularly when I see crying unexpectedly, or when a crying scene is especially realistic or very intense. An actual physical sensation, so weird

I definitely recognize that sensation

What's whump?