Good question! Well, I like different things in videos/pictures for men and women.

Women: Lots of bulging/contorted lip. Mostly more intense sobbing.

Men: I like sobbing, but I also LOVE comforting scenes. I'm with woundedpuppy -- I like really emotional guys divulging their secrets and breaking down. Comforting scenes, though... Man, I love those. Or a guy trying to hold it together and then losing it. That's reeeaaally hot too.

Yay!!

and maybe a little to celebrate...

woundedpuppy wrote:

I hope your best friend cries!!!  To want to see a friend cry who you've never seen cry before but always wanted to?  Totally can relate to that.  Good luck!!  And good luck with your boyfriend too, both as far as obs goes and the long distance relationship in general.

Thanks! I talked to my best friend on the phone last night for a really long time, and he was more open than he has been in a while (this is the friend I've posted about who is really emotionally troubled and closed off). I hope this is a good sign! I reeeaaaalllyy would like to see him cry...

Also, meantangerine -- I know what you're saying! I start to feel a little angry sometimes too when my family cries. I don't understand it at all. Maybe I'm more angry at what I'm feeling and being unable to overcome the uncomfortableness and provide comfort. I had a discussion about this with a colleague, interestingly enough. She said that she feels slightly traumatized by seeing her parents cry because it made her feel a loss of control, especially as a young child. Like, her parents were supposed to be stable and level, and here they were, breaking down. I understand that -- I remember the first time I was aware of my mother crying. I was about 5, and it was pretty scary.

Anyway, so I can understand why it makes me sort of angry. It's a reaction I can't exactly control, even though it bothers me.

@Woundedpuppy: I agree, I much prefer to see my boyfriend/male friends crying. The few times I've seen random men crying, I've just felt frustrated, because I can't just walk over and start hugging them, lol. Random women crying don't turn me on that much either... The situation has to be just right.

woundedpuppy wrote:

The whole TOPIC of family makes me uncomfortable, lol.  I guess I am really particular about who I want to see cry.  Male friends.  And my husband, but ONLY if his crying felt therapeutic to him on some level (he considers crying unpleasant and generally bad, whereas I view my own crying as cathartic!)

I know this is off-topic in my own thread, haha, but you've said that your husband doesn't like crying and rarely cries. I'm just curious: how many times have you seen him cry?