Gosh, that bedroom part sounds so sweet.  I love that he just wanted to be held.  

Growing up, I used to prefer crying fantasies about people who are less likely to cry.  To this day, I'm much more aroused by male than female crying, despite being pansexual--probably because society judges men who cry, making it feel more intimate, which is a huge thing for me.  

Nowadays, my boyfriend is pretty much the only person I have crying fantasies about.  Usually I just steal whatever situation I read or watched most recently and throw him and I into it, or make up my own if nothing comes to mind.  However, I love when he tries to hide it or fight it in my fantasy, but my comfort and acceptance just cause him to give in.  Of course, part of the appeal might be that he's never cried to me before in a manner that was visible (he has sobbed to me over the phone and I'm pretty sure he's shed a tear or two in the dark beside me, though we never acknowleded it).  I'll definitely still enjoy the fantasies after it happens, but I'm looking forward to it in a way, so the fantasies sort of tide me over.

I'd heard about her before, but never the part about the tears.  I think that's really interesting in a way, that it kind of shows that there are people out there who just need that kind of intimate comfort.  I would want to do that job, but a version targeted specifically at people who are sad and want comfort-cuddles.  I would definitely feel weird cuddling strangers for no reason, but I might enjoy it if they were crying.

Inmyarms - That's a good point.  If he felt that way, that would kind of explain why he still wanted to be physically close to me but didn't want me to use that tone of voice.  Of course, I hope I didn't deligitimize his feelings, but I guess I don't know.

Reptongeek - I see.  I'm not sure if that's what he was doing exactly or not.  He was cool with talking about what happened, it was the way I was talking about it he didn't like.  Of course, he's refused to talk about problems before, too.  Usually the ones that are the most important to talk about.  So, that's a thing.

Thanks for backing me up on that one.  I don't believe in god, so those words wouldn't have much power coming from me, but I have found some ways to protect myself.