I have wiped and kissed his tears before, and he seemed to appreciate it but he never says anything about it, and I don't need him to.  I used to want to talk to him about crying and would initiate conversations about it but he doesn't seem to get into talking about it.   That's okay.  We just allow the moment to be.  Usually when he cries, I'll give him tissues or  whatever is nearby, and then sit with him, kissing his teary cheeks.   When I'm crying, he doesn't wipe my tears but he will give me tissues or a handkerchief, and either hold me or just sit beside me,,just being there.    He was the first person I ever felt safe to cry deeply in the presence of.

Lately, I notice that when I cry it's usually for a few short minutes and then nothing.  I'll break down and the tears will flow, and I'll either sob or  moan a bit.  It's deep crying, right from my gut, but as soon as it comes, it's suddenly gone before I can grab a tissue or hanky.   I used to be able to cry for about twenty or thirty minutes, minimum five or ten.  But lately I can't cry for longer than two or three minutes.  I do feel relief when it's over, which is good but I sometimes wish I could cry longer.  I don't force myself to keep crying when  I'm done, I just allow whatever happens.  But it is interesting that ever since my dad died last year, my crying spell durations have changed in this way.
Have any of you noticed a change in crying routines over the years or after something significant?  Just curious.  Feel free to share below!!! 


 

I too have had that restless and scattered feeling when I know I need to cry but I can't for whatever reason.  The tears won't flow.  Usually a really sad song will do the trick...5th Dimension's "If I Could Reach You" does it to me every time.

White Tulip wrote:

I wouldn't mind seeing some of my favorite actors, etc. sneeze -- like during an interview or something like that.  It would demonstrate that they're human, and "just like everybody else," if you know what I mean.  And, frankly, I'm curious to know how some of them sound!  And then if someone "blessed" them after they sneezed (and then they thanked the blesser?) -- well, then that would make it even better, as far as I'm concerned.

I'd love to see that too, especially Johnny Depp, whom I have a soft spot for anyway.    He's one of those guys who can be completely vulnerable and still look tough at the same time.  Few guys I've seen in Hollywood can command that kind of energy.   I've already seen him do laugh-tears which gave me goosebumps, lol. Johnny and Tim Burton were doing an interview together while promoting "Sweeney Todd."  The interviewer made a mistake and said Tim and Johnny had been working together for "over ten decades."  She meant to say ten years lol.  Johnny just burst out laughing, as Tim was making jokes, "can you roll the IV in please?"  Johnny laughed until he cried, wiping his face on his sleeve.  It was so sweet, so real.    Yeah, he'd be a good one to see sneeze during an interview, lmao.  I'd even forgive him if snot came out lol, he's that cute!!!  Now, that would REALLY be human lol.    

 

Does anyone else get aroused by angry tears?   Intense anger that seems so powerful, even scary, intrigues me, mainly because of what happens after it is released.  There's that exhaustion after venting, that cooling down moment after the storm.   Usually then, those vulnerable places the angry person was stuffing down, will come out.  I love when tears come at this time, whether I'm doing it myself or just witnessing it in someone I love.  
Some of my favorite movies involve men who express anger by throwing things around the room, swearing and shouting at the world.  Then, finally, he cools down, and leans on the wall, or sits on a chair.  Or maybe there's someone with him who goes over and comforts him in some way.  He'll breathe heavily, sweating, and his breath sounds like sobbing.  Sometimes it even becomes sobbing!!!  
Anger is a controversial thing these days, particularly in men.   But there's a difference between anger that comes from abusive people who just want to hurt others, and anger that comes from a deep down love of something that could be lost...even if it's a part of oneself.  Abusive people, whether men or women, are "cold" in their anger.  Those people I have no time for.  But raw, human anger that usually masks something more vulnerable, always gets me. 
It's incredible when people, even if they're just characters in movies, can see past the surface to what  scares us the most.  I'm inspired by those who can  comfort some of the angriest people,  and let them know they're not alone. It's a healing thing that I'm still learning, whether I'm the angry one or the comforter.  Sometimes anger masks tears, and the person just needs to have a good cry!   To me it's about ultimate trust, that trust to be completely real, raw and in the moment, then get to the other side together.