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Crying Discussion » First time » August 1, 2019 3:07 am

La Llorona
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I have wiped and kissed his tears before, and he seemed to appreciate it but he never says anything about it, and I don't need him to.  I used to want to talk to him about crying and would initiate conversations about it but he doesn't seem to get into talking about it.   That's okay.  We just allow the moment to be.  Usually when he cries, I'll give him tissues or  whatever is nearby, and then sit with him, kissing his teary cheeks.   When I'm crying, he doesn't wipe my tears but he will give me tissues or a handkerchief, and either hold me or just sit beside me,,just being there.    He was the first person I ever felt safe to cry deeply in the presence of.

Crying Discussion » Obs: Crying duration change » August 1, 2019 2:37 am

La Llorona
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Right???  You would think that would be the case with me, that I'd cry longer now than I used to before my dad died, but for some reason it's just this short spurt of tears and then nothing.  I guess there's something to be said about quality over quantity but wow.  

Crying Discussion » Obs: Crying duration change » August 1, 2019 2:01 am

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Lately, I notice that when I cry it's usually for a few short minutes and then nothing.  I'll break down and the tears will flow, and I'll either sob or  moan a bit.  It's deep crying, right from my gut, but as soon as it comes, it's suddenly gone before I can grab a tissue or hanky.   I used to be able to cry for about twenty or thirty minutes, minimum five or ten.  But lately I can't cry for longer than two or three minutes.  I do feel relief when it's over, which is good but I sometimes wish I could cry longer.  I don't force myself to keep crying when  I'm done, I just allow whatever happens.  But it is interesting that ever since my dad died last year, my crying spell durations have changed in this way.
Have any of you noticed a change in crying routines over the years or after something significant?  Just curious.  Feel free to share below!!! 


 

Crying Discussion » First time » August 1, 2019 1:38 am

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When I first started dating the man I would later marry, I was letting him in for our second date. The house was full of boxes because my roommates and I had to move out. The owners were selling the house under us and the promised three months to find a place to live had been suddenly changed to 28 days  I was stressed, emotional and embarrassed about the way the house looked, so at one point I was telling him all about it, and I broke down.  My voice went shaky and I could feel the tears welling up as my face screwed up a bit. I put my hands up to my face, not wanting him to see my ugly crying face, but he just took me in his arms and said, "Let yourself feel the feelings, it's all right."  I wept into his shoulder, and then we sat down for a little bit and talked some more, me crying off and on.  I think at one point he gave me his handkerchief to wipe my eyes with while I sat there crying.  I know I was wiping my tears with something..  He was really great about it.  For years and years after we were married, he never cried. He always said he wasn't able to do it, but it wasn't for holding back or anything.  He just couldn't cry. 
Then, in 2004, our sweet little albino ferret died unexpectedly.  My husband was very shaken up by it; he was the one who found her in the cage.  We always loved animals; mostly we had cats and the occasional ferret.
He canceled a work engagement, and we were trying to figure out when we could take the ferret to the vet to be cremated.  We were talking about it and suddenly  he just broke into sobs.  His tears fell unchecked but he wiped his nose with a tissue now and then.  I just put my arms around him and he let me hold him while he cried.  I was really moved that he finally allowed himself to cry to me.  Normally he sobs really hard, tears rolling down his face unchecked.  I don't always sob hard, sometimes it's medium but I'm usually wiping my tears or covering my face with my hands or something.. I hate for tears

Crying Discussion » Planned crying? » August 1, 2019 12:55 am

La Llorona
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I too have had that restless and scattered feeling when I know I need to cry but I can't for whatever reason.  The tears won't flow.  Usually a really sad song will do the trick...5th Dimension's "If I Could Reach You" does it to me every time.

Other and Related Fetishes » Sneezing... » May 11, 2018 1:42 am

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Thanks!!!!   Yeah, it's great to meet like-minded people.   I've always enjoyed your posts as well!!

Other and Related Fetishes » Sneezing... » May 10, 2018 8:04 pm

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White Tulip wrote:

I wouldn't mind seeing some of my favorite actors, etc. sneeze -- like during an interview or something like that.  It would demonstrate that they're human, and "just like everybody else," if you know what I mean.  And, frankly, I'm curious to know how some of them sound!  And then if someone "blessed" them after they sneezed (and then they thanked the blesser?) -- well, then that would make it even better, as far as I'm concerned.

I'd love to see that too, especially Johnny Depp, whom I have a soft spot for anyway.    He's one of those guys who can be completely vulnerable and still look tough at the same time.  Few guys I've seen in Hollywood can command that kind of energy.   I've already seen him do laugh-tears which gave me goosebumps, lol. Johnny and Tim Burton were doing an interview together while promoting "Sweeney Todd."  The interviewer made a mistake and said Tim and Johnny had been working together for "over ten decades."  She meant to say ten years lol.  Johnny just burst out laughing, as Tim was making jokes, "can you roll the IV in please?"  Johnny laughed until he cried, wiping his face on his sleeve.  It was so sweet, so real.    Yeah, he'd be a good one to see sneeze during an interview, lmao.  I'd even forgive him if snot came out lol, he's that cute!!!  Now, that would REALLY be human lol.    

 

Other and Related Fetishes » Sneezing... » May 10, 2018 7:36 pm

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I met someone once who said a good sneeze is almost orgasmic.  I got goosebumps because that's how I always felt.  Sometimes, sneezing can almost be like a mini-cry, at least I've seen sneezes like that.

Like, someone pulls out a bunch of tissues from a box(or a hanky) and sneezes into them.  Then, they might tremble a bit, then hold the tissues over their face a moment, while composing themselves.  The vulnerability in that gives me tingles down my spine.  I feel honored to have witnessed that.  And I love the "bless you," as well.  Especially when it's a particularly powerful sneeze, and someone says, "Oh!  Bless you!  Oh my goodness!" because it's such a strong sneeze, lol. There's compassion from witnessing the vulnerability.  I love when the person who sneezes laughs a little, with watering eyes.  Very sweet lol.

Actually when I sneeze, some sobs come out. It's not like actual crying for any reason, but it's almost like a natural reaction to a powerful sneeze.    So it's a natural release.  It does create endorphins in me, lol.

Crying Discussion » Anger and Crying » May 9, 2018 12:48 pm

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Does anyone else get aroused by angry tears?   Intense anger that seems so powerful, even scary, intrigues me, mainly because of what happens after it is released.  There's that exhaustion after venting, that cooling down moment after the storm.   Usually then, those vulnerable places the angry person was stuffing down, will come out.  I love when tears come at this time, whether I'm doing it myself or just witnessing it in someone I love.  
Some of my favorite movies involve men who express anger by throwing things around the room, swearing and shouting at the world.  Then, finally, he cools down, and leans on the wall, or sits on a chair.  Or maybe there's someone with him who goes over and comforts him in some way.  He'll breathe heavily, sweating, and his breath sounds like sobbing.  Sometimes it even becomes sobbing!!!  
Anger is a controversial thing these days, particularly in men.   But there's a difference between anger that comes from abusive people who just want to hurt others, and anger that comes from a deep down love of something that could be lost...even if it's a part of oneself.  Abusive people, whether men or women, are "cold" in their anger.  Those people I have no time for.  But raw, human anger that usually masks something more vulnerable, always gets me. 
It's incredible when people, even if they're just characters in movies, can see past the surface to what  scares us the most.  I'm inspired by those who can  comfort some of the angriest people,  and let them know they're not alone. It's a healing thing that I'm still learning, whether I'm the angry one or the comforter.  Sometimes anger masks tears, and the person just needs to have a good cry!   To me it's about ultimate trust, that trust to be completely real, raw and in the moment, then get to the other side together. 

Introduce Yourself » Attracted to the Darkness is here! » May 9, 2018 11:36 am

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Hi there, and welcome!  I am just getting back into posting after a hiatus.  I know what you mean about guys crying...especially when they're so tough otherwise, and finally break down.  It's beautiful.  It's emotional mostly for me too...but I have also felt aroused by it.    It's the ultimate trust, crying in front of someone and when they understand and can love and accept you for everything...well.  That's just powerful.   
One of my favorite movies when a "tough guy" breaks down is The Outsiders, circa 1983. I saw that when I was in high school and I loved it.   Matt Dillon played a real hard street kid who had spent time in jail but when(spoiler alert) something happened toward the end of the movie, he broke down and cried.   Then he got up and started punching the wall and then leaning on  it.  It's so powerful when guys are angry at the same time they're crying...punching walls, even throwing things around, then falling to their knees in tears or whatnot.  It's an epic release, and it's not like we all haven't been there in our own unique ways!   

Anyway, welcome, and thanks for sharing!!!  See you around the forum.

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